Are you wanting your team(s) to make a bigger impact?
Put out bolder creative solutions?
Attract a sexy new client?
Increase your revenue?
Grow your own leadership?
Experience way more FUN in the process?
We’re often told to swing for the fences and take the big risk, do the big ‘thing but what I notice from talking to Execs, Entrepreneurs and in my own business is it starts with taking time to do the mundane things that create consistency in all aspects of your business.
I know it’s often the things that don’t fire us up, however, getting consistent with things like reviewing talent monthly,not just annually, reviewing your financial goals and where you’re at daily, not just quarterly, and being intentional about outreach to potential clients, weekly, all contribute to a well oiled foundation.
In order to “do” the above, it requires commitment. Re-commitment. We’re all being pulled in a thousand different directions and our days can easily be experienced as distraction over distraction.
Here’s where I can help you so that you can make your BIG desire happen!
If you are getting distracted easily, there’s a high chance that you have energy leaks all over the place. Some of the most common ones I see in my clients are:
+ Ignoring boundaries and saying YES to everyone and everything
+ Not putting your basic needs first (rest, movement, diet, pleasure, connection)
+ Being agreeable instead of saying and doing the uncomfortable thing because you want to avoid ‘conflict’
+ Thinking life will get better when….. (fill in the blank) only nothing changes!
+ Feeling lonely because you’re at the top of your game and don’t feel like you have a community you can turn to and be super vulnerable because it wouldn’t be ‘appropriate’
If you’re nodding your head AND your willing to take the bull by it’s horns because YOU want more than ‘good or fine,’ than reach out.
I’ve opened my doors to the one group program I’m running next year: ‘ The Board’. You can read all about it HERE, but what you need to know, is that I heavily curate this intimate group (10 or less) and is designed for:
👉️ Men & Women who are just as excited about other people’s success as they are their own
👉️ People who will not accept ‘fine or good’ and instead desire feeling deeply connected, alive, and calm while also making an even bigger impact AND increasing their revenue.
👉️ People who are open-minded, kind and value integrity.
👉️ People who value the experience along the way as much as traditional success.
👉️ Men & women who are driven and have a track record for success. *This is not a program for people just starting out.
You will get out of this program what you want, but most importantly you’ll transform your ability to create your life from your soul and your giant heart, rather than your head. Imagine all the self-trust and confidence that comes from living that way?!
Spots are filling up, so please don’t wait. Email me directly at email@example.com if you’d like to apply to be a part of the The Board 2023.
When it comes to hearing inspiring people talk, I’ve seen a lot of really incredible people over the years. Truth be told, I’ve never quite had the experience like I had last week.
My dear friends, founders of Creative Visions, Amy and Kathy Eldon, set up an intimate conversation between John Turtletaub and Norman Lear.
Norman Lear is known for his story-telling talents as a Screenwriter, film and television Producer (responsible for shows like Allin the Family, The Jeffersons, Good Times, The Facts of Life….and so so so much more) and his ability to impact equality through the arts.
But what I love about this man is who he embodies as a human being. And I’m confident after experiencing him, it’s the reason he just celebrated his 100th Birthday. Ya’ll, he walked out on stage!!
I can’t even begin to describe the surge of energy, laughter, truth and heart-felt connection I felt throughout my whole body as he answered each question ever so presently and candidly. I walked away so grateful for this experience because it gave me confirmation on what I’ve suspected all along
*BEING NICE* is a key ingredient to success and living a healthy long life despite most of the world dismissing this quality.
The word *nice* I find gets overlooked.
It’s the quality that I worry feels too light, maybe even weak, and not special enough. Yet, I often find myself in conversations w/ my husband at the end of the day saying something like, ‘if we can just raise nice boys’ I’ll feel like I’ve fulfilled my motherly duties.
As Norman put it, *nice* is the quality that slows us down. Right there, is the challenge.
Who the heck wants to slow down?! Yet, it’s the quality that has us look up from our phones, smile at a stranger, hold the door open for others, say please and thank you. It’s also the quality that, when we’re in argument with our partners, has us *think twice* about our words in an attempt to fight fairly, and not attack one’s character.
Beyond that, it’s the way of being that fosters being generous with our time, energy and money, empathetic to others situations and compassionate towards ourselves and others when we experience disappointment.
It’s the very quality that allows others to feel seen, appreciated, and acknowledged. Most importantly, connected to ourselves and others. From there, doors open. The impossible becomes possible.
Imagine a world where each of us are 5 degrees *nicer* than we currently are? What would you experience MORE of in your life?
Norman also confirmed for me that laughter, or call it fun, has to be a part of every day. Norman’s pretty confident that the reason he hit the century mark, is that he has prioritized JOY in his life.
If there’s one theme I hear all the time from my coaching conversations, it’s “I want to experience more joy, levity and laughter.”
I observe people being resigned in one part of their life. It looks something like, “I don’t have a choice. It’s just how it is.” If you’re craving more laughter, then take a look at your life where you feel you’re at the mercy of your circumstances. Once we get clear on where we really are, we can wake up and consider another choice.
We can never have another Norman Lear, but we can learn from everything he’s put on this Earth while he’s been here.
The lesson to show up as our most alive selves, messiness and all, to be *nice* always, and to prioritise joy. And guess what? It’s contagious.
When’s the last time you answered the question, “How’s it going?” with the real stuff, and not just, “I’m good, but busy and tired.”?
When was the last time you sat at another human’s dining room table and talked about your relationships, your work, your health, your worries, politics or your faith and really felt like you were the only one that mattered in that moment?
When’s the last time you totally let your guard down and asked for help?
When’s the last time you said NO and didn’t worry about others liking you less?
When’s the last time you felt like quitting, and someone said to you… ‘oh no you don’t.’ This is who you are and you owe it to yourself to go for it?
Over the last 6 months I found myself craving a deeper sense of community, particularly around my desire to live a more soul-filling life, which means really being choosy in how I spend my energy. Still ambitious, but a more simplified, intentional version of life. I was craving spaciousness and connection that was not only deeper but had a wider range.
What I’ve realized is that we’re sold community, as if the minute you join a group you’re going to instantly feel like you’ve made best friends; you know friends who totally get you and see you.
This isn’t really the case!
Finding a community of your people is a combination of laser-sharp facilitating and showing up fully in SELF.
Even then, I find the getting-to-know-each-other phase can be a bit slow, especially if you haven’t met in person. Real community can be awkward, boring, average and, dare I say ‘just fine.’
I’ve just come off a weekend spending time in person with a community I recently joined. Thank you Allison Crow for creating Cultivate; a group of female business owners, all craving a more soul-filling biz and life. Our group connection started with meetings over zoom and at times it felt nice, sometimes awkward, average and dare I say ‘fine.’ What I realized after spending time together in person this past weekend, is that if we want to experience the kind of community where we feel completely understood and seen, we have to fully show up.
I don’t mean fake it until you make it, I mean here are my dreams, biggest fears, things that keep me up at night, shame stories and everything in-between.
What I’ve experienced time and time again is that when I show up with all my parts, all my stories and give people my full presence, real community is created and this is what is life changing.
Each time I’ve elevated to the next level in my marriage, motherhood, or my business, it’s because of one belief I swear by. Revolutionary growth happens inside revolutionary relationships!
I can’t imagine not having a group to lean into who has my back, believes in me 100%, accepts me exactly as I am encouraging me to choose discomfort over resentment, and reminds me who I am when I forget.
Connection is the gift at the heart of community. It’s not just about depth, it’s about range.
So… how’s your relationship to communities?
I know for me the more I let go of the dream of experiencing an ‘ideal’ community and I embrace the messy, real community, which means I show up from my truest self, I experience belonging. Boom. That’s when transformation happens. When one human transforms in a group, you better believe there’s a ripple.
If this kind of community resonates with you, email me. I have something to discuss with you.
We live in a world of information overload – right? – and it’s easy to get sucked into thinking that the more we know, the more we’ll become better leaders. As if by simply reading or listening to ‘the best 5 tools’ will translate to new behavior.
Information doesn’t equal transformation. Just because you might have a new tool in your kit, by no means will it extinguish you humanness. Your humanness can show up in the form of your Achilles Heel.
SO WHAT TO DO
If you really want to up your game in how you show up and lead, start by getting clear on what your Achilles Heel is. And rather than trying to banish that part of you, build a relationship with it. I’m learning loads about the IFS model, and really subscribe to the idea that all of our parts are welcome (e.g. the anxiousness, the judgment etc) and we learn to build relationships with these parts, we experience so much more confidence and self-trust.
“Build a relationship with your Achilles Heel”
Here are some of the most common ways I see my people getting in their own way of leading. In other words, their Achilles Heel:
Choosing comfort over discomfort
Trying to get it right, which creates analysis paralysis
Too many priorities
Working on what’s urgent instead of what’s important
Not asking for help
Once you’ve identified it, have a conversation with that part of you and find out what it needs you to know. Now, this can be a 2-minute conversation.
It looks something like this…
*My Achilles Heel is trying to get it right, so I might say to my ‘trying to get it right part’….
SG: “Trying to Get it Right – I see you. What do you want me to know?”
Trying to Get it Right: “I’m worried that if you get it wrong, you’ll feel stupid.”
SG: “I see you wanting to protect me. Thank you for that, AND, just because I might not get something right, doesn’t mean I’m stupid. I can always course correct. I’m committed to putting myself out there instead of playing it safe. I’m going to need you to step to the side while I be brave.”
Each time I talk TO the part that’s feeling triggered and trying to get my attention, I feel myself re-centered and ready to rock.
These parts of us that get in the way of us showing up and being who we’re meant to be, don’t have to derail us. They can actually help us.
If you try this exercise on, let me know how it goes. This is something you can do on the fly and be a quick exercise, but hugely profound. We owe it to ourselves first and foremost to show up as the brightest and fullest version of ourselves.
I have a bee in my bonnet about all the talk I hear in the self-help world as it relates to wanting and manifesting desires, because it’s simply not enough to ‘want.’
I think back to when I was desiring a career that invigorated me, while making a positive impact on humanity and still paid me good $$. The years were passing by and I felt stagnant and underwhelmed.
It simply wasn’t enough for me too ‘want to do something different.’ I had desires, but I wasn’t doing anything about it.
Even with the most colorful & inspiring vision board in my office, *nothing* and I mean *nothing* was happening.
It wasn’t until an Executive coach I was working with at the time suggested I consider checking out a grad school program for Spiritual Psychology and I consciously chose to go the open house.
It was the act of *choosing* that changed my life forever.
After attending the open house, I chose to have a convo w/ John about applying for the two year program.
From there, I chose to apply and got accepted.
If someone had told me 10 years later I’d be running a massive 6 figure coaching business spending time with people who inspire me, I’m not sure I would have believed them. I didn’t have a detailed business plan, but I did have the inner knowledge to keep choosing what I wanted.
– Choosing vs. Wanting. There’s no competition. –
If you’re wanting something to be different in your life, it begins with your leadership and choosing is one way you can harness your power.
I’ll be diving more into choosing vs wanting at TIDAL.
In case you missed the announcement last week, I’ll be hosting my TIDAL workshop on Sept. 17th from 9am PT- Noon PT and the theme this year is “Learn how to Harness Your Leadership Power.”
You’ll walk away with a refined relationship to the term ‘leadership’ and clear next steps (Hint: it’s not as corporate and boring as you might think, it’s about your POWER in every moment).
I believe in connection and community as key ingredients to stepping more fully into your life, so everything about Tidal is designed in such a way that you experience self-connection and belonging.
Now more than ever I see ALL of us craving connection.
Grab your ticket HERE. For all my introverts, don’t worry. I got you. You’ll be held in the brave container we co-create together.