Absolutely your Humanity + Leadership can Co-exist
My heart is numb from all that happened last week at Robb Elementary.
In fact, it’s been numb for a while as I’m still processing what happened in Buffalo. As a Mama of an 11 year old and a 9 year old boy, the pain I imagine the families feel must be unbearable and paralyzing.
Like you, my world doesn’t stop *even* when the most horrific events happen in my country. I still chose to show up and Mother. Coach. Wife. Cook. Drive the boys to various practices etc. I laughed, I cried, I got frustrated and everything in-between.
Just because we carry on with our lives, doesn’t mean that we don’t care.
Do you ever feel like in moments like this, that you *should* be…
- Taking moments of silence
- Giving your team the day(s) off
- Keeping your kids home
- Galvanizing your community to voice your opinion about gun laws
Whatever your ‘should’ is I totally get it.
What I notice is how much we all live in an either/ or world. In other words, you can’t possibly be excited over your current WIN at work, and be grieving at the same time.
Well I call B.S.
We are spiritual beings, having a human experience. That means our humanity can be feeling a smorgasbord of feelings at the same time – excitement, sadness, joy, nerves, rage, loneliness and so on.
In the midst of ALL of our humanity, there’s nothing wrong with you still choosing to lead in all areas of your life. Standing in responsibility and following through with your commitments. That doesn’t make you a selfish, unaware or an uncaring human being.
Your humanity and leadership are not mutually exclusive, they co-exist
What I will ask is that you give space for YOUR humanity to breathe as well as your teams. In practical ways this looks like:
- Building in space for you to share your feelings (yes people, talk about how you feel…it’s super liberating, and the more you do it, the more you give others the opportunity to express themselves
- Loosen the reins on the work agenda, and make space at the start of work calls to check in with your people.
If you feel called to do more, then wonderful. Take the pressure off and be with ALL of your humanity and continue to lead in service to sharing your full self with the world.
If you want support around this, just hit me back.
I got you,