2016 is coming to an end. How do you feel? Do you feel fulfilled? Have you expanded in ways that you didn’t know were possible?
One of the things I’ve become hyper-sensitive to is living in mediocrity. For me, this feels like Groundhogs Day. Or, even more so, I feel that dreaded wash-rinse-repeat feeling when I can go through the day or tasks with my eyes closed because I know it so well.
I love the start of the school year. Seeing familiar faces that we haven’t seen in a while, renewed energy amongst both the children and the parents, and a curiosity about what the year will bring. I even take comfort in the anxiety that creeps in as I watch my boys find out which teachers they received and hunting to see if their friends got in the same class.
Oh my goodness! I have been sooo excited to share this news with you! Last year, one of my sharpest colleagues, soul sisters, and someone I deeply admire came to me with an idea of writing a book. Before she could even finish, I was jumping up and down saying, “YES, YES, and YES.”
There were six of us who joined together, all from different backgrounds, but with one common mission: inspire women on a global scale to be their best selves, sharing our individual stories of struggle, renewal, and success.
The result after over a year of work: The Chalk Collective: Drawing The Life You Deserve, which is available digitally TODAY on Amazon HERE! The soft copy is coming soon. I promise.
I knew with every ounce of my body that the final product would be of great service to women around the world who are looking to change course in their lives and experience the fullness of who they really are.
What I underestimated was how much I would receive from recounting my own story. My intention is to inspire you to wake up in your own way and commit to experiencing ALL of who you’re here to become.
Without further ado, here’s what I learned and hope that all or parts resonate with you:
In a world where social media puts a glossy shine over everything, I experienced a great sense of liberation by sharing my truth. What you see is what you get, and I loved what I saw.
As long as I believed that my purpose lived outside of me, I would seek fulfillment there too rather than taking an inside-out approach. Once I switched my focus inwardly , I realized I could reach everything I desire right within me.
I have a responsibility to myself to show up as the real me. If I choose to play small, I’m keeping my gifts from other people. How selfish!
I’m responsible for own happiness; not my husband and, certainly not my children.
I can always work on my ability to RECEIVE, as giving comes quite naturally.
Staying connected to the highest vision I have for myself makes it easy to trust myself.
The more I take personal responsibility for my feelings of frustration, anger,, overwhelm, disappointment, or regret, the more I heal unresolved issues inside of me. This allows me to experience more harmony with myself and with my husband.
Saying goodbye to regret and guilt became easy when I recognized that every experience I had was an opportunity for my soul to learn something. This stretched and expanded me in ways I didn’t even know were possible.
Believing that Universe is working with me and totally has my back (oh, yes it does)
The more I strengthened my self-love — compassion, speaking up, and setting boundaries — the more connected I feel to myself and to others.
Wow, this is just the tip of the learning iceberg. I could keep going, and I want to encourage you to read the book. The other women featured are impactful and, like me, are committed to being real and experiencing the best version of who they’re here to become.
If this sparked something in you, I strongly encourage you to purchase the digital book HERE! If you feel called, I’d so strongly appreciate you sharing this INFO with your friends on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or via email. Please tag @consciousworkingmama, so I can thank you!
I’m so grateful to be on this path with each of you. Here’s to living a full life, one of meaning and experiencing successes in all areas. It’s your turn….
PS: If you know of anyone who is seeking change in their life, but feel stuck, this inspiring book is for them. You can purchase it HERE!
Boy, oh boy, is it easy to be addicted to our phones, which is why I’m going to share 3 tips with you to help you break away. I find I go through phases where I’m really self aware of when I’m using my phone and other times not so much. This past week I found myself falling prey to checking my phone while standing in line at the grocery store, getting a tea at the coffee shop and even (I’m embarrassed to admit this) checking my phone while waiting at a stoplight. It hit me the other day that I was back to my old antics and struggling to be comfortable doing nothing. If given even 30 seconds, I felt a strong pull to read, text or click something on my phone. I felt less joyful than usual over the past week, and suspect my phone addiction is to blame.
Time for an intervention! Over the weekend I heard Arelene Pellicane of Growing up Social: Raising Relational Kids in a Screen-Driven World, speak, and her words hit me hard. I feel more inspired than ever to lead by example and show my children how to set phone boundaries. I’m saying YES to experiencing my life fully engaged. My children will be the lucky recipients of a Mama who’s present, balanced and full of life.
Here are three tips that I practice to help me part with my beloved phone:
1. Out of sight (out of mind) –If you’re at home, keep your phone in another room. This means charge it in another room! If you’re out with your family, keep it in your purse, or your pocket and disable the wireless. You can still use your camera.
2. Turn it off –(Gasp) I know it sounds so uncomfortable. Just try it for 15 minutes. It’s incredibly liberating. I’m experimenting with not having my phone on at all when I’m with my children.
3. Make an agreement with your significant other and support one another- I find it’s extremely difficult to quit cold turkey by yourself. Discuss guidelines with your spouse, and help each other live by them.
I know it’s incredibly easy to justify why we should be on our phones at times. I’ve been there. (It provides me flexibility. My client needs me. I have a deadline.) However, if your goal is to experience more fun and calmness, you need to take action and make decisions that will help you live that way. My hunch is that there are plenty of times when an email can wait 15 minutes or a phone call can be made an hour later. Instead you can use that time to be totally present and absorb your surroundings, which might be talking to a stranger in the coffee queue, having a conversation with your husband or sitting at a stoplight and watching the person next to you have a dance party in their car. It’s in our DNA to want more laughter and spontaneity in our life, so let’s make some space for it. Will you join me and commit to using your phone less?