parenting

Join Me in the Spiritual Olympics

I am huge fan of the Olympics (that part doesn’t embarrass me). As I huddle around our iMac monitor (we got rid of our TV — that’s a different a blog post!) with my oldest son, watching the Men’s 4×100 take to pool, I realized (AGAIN) in that moment that anything is possible.

I found myself filled with butterflies and nostalgia for the wholeness I experienced when I was a little girl. I yearned for the no holds barred dedication to the belief that anything was possible. With commitment and self-discipline, the sky was the limit. Above all, there was the attachment to the belief at the end of the day, no matter what happened, I did my best. I knew I was good enough.

As we continued to watch, I saw that self-assured, positive childs’ spirit in my son as he cheered on the Americans. When the Americans didn’t win, he moved on in a split second. He got behind the Brit. Or, maybe it was the French? He didn’t get caught up with why the American lost. He wasn’t blindsided with beliefs that one country was better than the other, or that one athlete was faster, smarter and an all around a better athlete. Instead, without hesitation, he knew the American had given his all — he made it to the Olympics! — and that it was okay he didn’t win. It didn’t make him less than the other athletes. Then, he proceeded to cheer for the other athletes who came in 1st and 2nd. I was amazed at how he didn’t feel such disappointment (he wasn’t attached to the expectation of the American winning like us adults) and moved into acceptance so quickly.

Our children are such beautiful reminders of what it’s like to live in a world before life experiences take over and we form limiting beliefs that can stop us from playing a bigger game. They are constant reminders that anything is possible and by not being attached to an outcome allows for miracles to happen.  

What I’m a little embarrassed about is that I got rather emotional witnessing my son’s experience of the Olympics.

It made me realize that even though I’ve committed my life to self-growth, I still operate with several limiting beliefs that have hold me back from experiencing the best version of myself. I decided to enter my own ‘Spiritual Olympics’ and got to work with pen and paper with the intention of healing whatever it was that was causing my emotional reaction.  

It’s up to us to change within, so that we can elevate our own mindset and make a meaningful impact in how we engage in the world, with others, and with ourselves.

I am sharing the exact question I asked myself in the hope that it helps you heal, expand, and grow into becoming the woman, Mom, wife, friend you want to be.

“What is the biggest limiting belief you’re buying into today, and how would your life change if you were to let it go?”

You can write it down. You can talk it out with a loved one. Just get it out. I want you to just imagine setting it free. Give yourself permission to believe anything is possible, just as you did before you starting forming beliefs when you were young.

When you’re ready, test yourself. What’s one step you can take that will move yourself forward in the direction you want to go? Make it small. Just create movement. In order to experience our deepest desires, we must compete in our own Spiritual Olympics. Remember that dedication and self-discipline you had as a child? I’m encouraging you to connect with it. Let it be the thread that brings you back to the belief that yes, anything is possible, and you can experience the life you desire. Each day continue to invest in your soul and nurture yourself. 
Infinite love for you,

Sarah x

 

Step Away From Your Phone…3 Tips For Addicts

Boy, oh boy, is it easy to be addicted to our phones, which is why I’m going to share 3 tips with you to help you break away. I find I go through phases where I’m really self aware of when I’m using my phone and other times not so much. This past week I found myself falling prey to checking my phone while standing in line at the grocery store, getting a tea at the coffee shop and even (I’m embarrassed to admit this) checking my phone while waiting at a stoplight. It hit me the other day that I was back to my old antics and struggling to be comfortable doing nothing. If given even 30 seconds, I felt a strong pull to read, text or click something on my phone.  I felt less joyful than usual over the past week, and suspect my phone addiction is to blame.

Time for an intervention! Over the weekend I heard Arelene Pellicane of Growing up Social: Raising Relational Kids in a Screen-Driven World, speak, and her words hit me hard. I feel more inspired than ever to lead by example and show my children how to set phone boundaries. I’m saying YES to experiencing my life fully engaged. My children will be the lucky recipients of a Mama who’s present, balanced and full of life.

Here are three tips that I practice to help me part with my beloved phone:

1.  Out of sight (out of mind) –If you’re at home, keep your phone in another room. This means charge it in another room! If you’re out with your family, keep it in your purse, or your pocket and disable the wireless. You can still use your camera.

2. Turn it off – (Gasp) I know it sounds so uncomfortable. Just try it for 15 minutes. It’s incredibly liberating. I’m experimenting with not having my phone on at all when I’m with my children.

3. Make an agreement with your significant other and support one another- I find it’s extremely difficult to quit cold turkey by yourself. Discuss guidelines with your spouse, and help each other live by them.

I know it’s incredibly easy to justify why we should be on our phones at times. I’ve been there. (It provides me flexibility. My client needs me. I have a deadline.) However, if your goal is to experience more fun and calmness, you need to take action and make decisions that will help you live that way. My hunch is that there are plenty of times when an email can wait 15 minutes or a phone call can be made an hour later.  Instead you can use that time to be totally present and absorb your surroundings, which might be talking to a stranger in the coffee queue, having a conversation with your husband or sitting at a stoplight and watching the person next to you have a dance party in their car. It’s in our DNA to want more laughter and spontaneity in our life, so let’s make some space for it. Will you join me and commit to using your phone less?

Imagine the fun we could be having,