We’re constantly moving into new seasons, albeit another birthday, children growing up, new job…
All of these can quickly cause busyness, overwhelm and as humans, our knee-jerk reaction is to cut stuff out. Only I see it all the time with my driven clients, the stuff that gets cut is the stuff that feeds their spirit. That fosters the most creative ideas and problem-solving.
I was reminded of this over the weekend, as I help run a Guild for Seattle Children’s Hospital with Mateo Messina, a dear friend and award-winning composer. This was our 23rd concert, and when I got involved over 16 years ago, neither Mateo or I had partners, children or mortgages. We both lived in Seattle and had all the time in the world to gather our group of volunteers and meet regularly in person. Looking back, life seemed so simple, all though I remember feeling like we both had a lot going on. Ha! Little did we know.
Fast forward to this year, after taking two years off for the pandemic, with the help of our small, but mighty group of volunteers, we put on another symphony concert to raise money for Seattle Children’s Hospital. Many of these volunteers live similar lives to Mateo and I, and also live outside of Seattle, Washington. It would have been so easy for any one of us to quit and focus on other priorities.
And yet, we didn’t. One might wonder where Mateo finds time to write a new symphony each year, let alone practice it, and I certainly get asked how I find time to host meetings regularly and keep the trains running on time w/ in the Guild. There’s no magic answer, other than we commit and recommit. This year I brought all my boys up to see it, since only Felix had experienced it in the past. I loved having them there to experience this part of my life AND, you can imagine, it created additional responsibilities, especially since John, my husband, was in Germany all week for work. This is where we have to let go of perfection, and roll with the punches.
The answer is quite simple.
I’m crystal clear on my values and am very intentional about living and leading from them. 3 of my values are connection, experience and impact. In this example, the relationships I I have with the other volunteers are really special, and this fundraising event is nothing like any other experience I’ve had – I get goosebumps (the good kind) every time I hear one of Mateo’s concerts.
To know we’ve raised over $1M for Seattle Children’s Hospital over the years, blows my mind.
It requires discipline and re-commitment to lead and live from your values, but I promise you, the more you embody it, the more fulfilled you will be. The more ALIVE you will feel.
Need help identifying your values? I get it. Email me at Sarah@sarahgibbons.co and I’ll send you my values guide.
Are you wanting your team(s) to make a bigger impact?
Put out bolder creative solutions?
Attract a sexy new client?
Increase your revenue?
Grow your own leadership?
Experience way more FUN in the process?
We’re often told to swing for the fences and take the big risk, do the big ‘thing but what I notice from talking to Execs, Entrepreneurs and in my own business is it starts with taking time to do the mundane things that create consistency in all aspects of your business.
I know it’s often the things that don’t fire us up, however, getting consistent with things like reviewing talent monthly,not just annually, reviewing your financial goals and where you’re at daily, not just quarterly, and being intentional about outreach to potential clients, weekly, all contribute to a well oiled foundation.
In order to “do” the above, it requires commitment. Re-commitment. We’re all being pulled in a thousand different directions and our days can easily be experienced as distraction over distraction.
Here’s where I can help you so that you can make your BIG desire happen!
If you are getting distracted easily, there’s a high chance that you have energy leaks all over the place. Some of the most common ones I see in my clients are:
+ Ignoring boundaries and saying YES to everyone and everything
+ Not putting your basic needs first (rest, movement, diet, pleasure, connection)
+ Being agreeable instead of saying and doing the uncomfortable thing because you want to avoid ‘conflict’
+ Thinking life will get better when….. (fill in the blank) only nothing changes!
+ Feeling lonely because you’re at the top of your game and don’t feel like you have a community you can turn to and be super vulnerable because it wouldn’t be ‘appropriate’
If you’re nodding your head AND your willing to take the bull by it’s horns because YOU want more than ‘good or fine,’ than reach out.
I’ve opened my doors to the one group program I’m running next year: ‘ The Board’. You can read all about it HERE, but what you need to know, is that I heavily curate this intimate group (10 or less) and is designed for:
👉️ Men & Women who are just as excited about other people’s success as they are their own
👉️ People who will not accept ‘fine or good’ and instead desire feeling deeply connected, alive, and calm while also making an even bigger impact AND increasing their revenue.
👉️ People who are open-minded, kind and value integrity.
👉️ People who value the experience along the way as much as traditional success.
👉️ Men & women who are driven and have a track record for success. *This is not a program for people just starting out.
You will get out of this program what you want, but most importantly you’ll transform your ability to create your life from your soul and your giant heart, rather than your head. Imagine all the self-trust and confidence that comes from living that way?!
Spots are filling up, so please don’t wait. Email me directly at email@example.com if you’d like to apply to be a part of the The Board 2023.
When it comes to hearing inspiring people talk, I’ve seen a lot of really incredible people over the years. Truth be told, I’ve never quite had the experience like I had last week.
My dear friends, founders of Creative Visions, Amy and Kathy Eldon, set up an intimate conversation between John Turtletaub and Norman Lear.
Norman Lear is known for his story-telling talents as a Screenwriter, film and television Producer (responsible for shows like Allin the Family, The Jeffersons, Good Times, The Facts of Life….and so so so much more) and his ability to impact equality through the arts.
But what I love about this man is who he embodies as a human being. And I’m confident after experiencing him, it’s the reason he just celebrated his 100th Birthday. Ya’ll, he walked out on stage!!
I can’t even begin to describe the surge of energy, laughter, truth and heart-felt connection I felt throughout my whole body as he answered each question ever so presently and candidly. I walked away so grateful for this experience because it gave me confirmation on what I’ve suspected all along
*BEING NICE* is a key ingredient to success and living a healthy long life despite most of the world dismissing this quality.
The word *nice* I find gets overlooked.
It’s the quality that I worry feels too light, maybe even weak, and not special enough. Yet, I often find myself in conversations w/ my husband at the end of the day saying something like, ‘if we can just raise nice boys’ I’ll feel like I’ve fulfilled my motherly duties.
As Norman put it, *nice* is the quality that slows us down. Right there, is the challenge.
Who the heck wants to slow down?! Yet, it’s the quality that has us look up from our phones, smile at a stranger, hold the door open for others, say please and thank you. It’s also the quality that, when we’re in argument with our partners, has us *think twice* about our words in an attempt to fight fairly, and not attack one’s character.
Beyond that, it’s the way of being that fosters being generous with our time, energy and money, empathetic to others situations and compassionate towards ourselves and others when we experience disappointment.
It’s the very quality that allows others to feel seen, appreciated, and acknowledged. Most importantly, connected to ourselves and others. From there, doors open. The impossible becomes possible.
Imagine a world where each of us are 5 degrees *nicer* than we currently are? What would you experience MORE of in your life?
Norman also confirmed for me that laughter, or call it fun, has to be a part of every day. Norman’s pretty confident that the reason he hit the century mark, is that he has prioritized JOY in his life.
If there’s one theme I hear all the time from my coaching conversations, it’s “I want to experience more joy, levity and laughter.”
I observe people being resigned in one part of their life. It looks something like, “I don’t have a choice. It’s just how it is.” If you’re craving more laughter, then take a look at your life where you feel you’re at the mercy of your circumstances. Once we get clear on where we really are, we can wake up and consider another choice.
We can never have another Norman Lear, but we can learn from everything he’s put on this Earth while he’s been here.
The lesson to show up as our most alive selves, messiness and all, to be *nice* always, and to prioritise joy. And guess what? It’s contagious.
I am huge fan of the Olympics (that part doesn’t embarrass me). As I huddle around our iMac monitor (we got rid of our TV — that’s a different a blog post!) with my oldest son, watching the Men’s 4×100 take to pool, I realized (AGAIN) in that moment that anything is possible.
I found myself filled with butterflies and nostalgia for the wholeness I experienced when I was a little girl. I yearned for the no holds barred dedication to the belief that anything was possible. With commitment and self-discipline, the sky was the limit. Above all, there was the attachment to the belief at the end of the day, no matter what happened, I did my best. I knew I was good enough.
As we continued to watch, I saw that self-assured, positive childs’ spirit in my son as he cheered on the Americans. When the Americans didn’t win, he moved on in a split second. He got behind the Brit. Or, maybe it was the French? He didn’t get caught up with why the American lost. He wasn’t blindsided with beliefs that one country was better than the other, or that one athlete was faster, smarter and an all around a better athlete. Instead, without hesitation, he knew the American had given his all — he made it to the Olympics! — and that it was okay he didn’t win. It didn’t make him less than the other athletes. Then, he proceeded to cheer for the other athletes who came in 1st and 2nd. I was amazed at how he didn’t feel such disappointment (he wasn’t attached to the expectation of the American winning like us adults) and moved into acceptance so quickly.
Our children are such beautiful reminders of what it’s like to live in a world before life experiences take over and we form limiting beliefs that can stop us from playing a bigger game. They are constant reminders that anything is possible and by not being attached to an outcome allows for miracles to happen.
What I’m a little embarrassed about is that I got rather emotional witnessing my son’s experience of the Olympics.
It made me realize that even though I’ve committed my life to self-growth, I still operate with several limiting beliefs that have hold me back from experiencing the best version of myself. I decided to enter my own ‘Spiritual Olympics’ and got to work with pen and paper with the intention of healing whatever it was that was causing my emotional reaction.
It’s up to us to change within, so that we can elevate our own mindset and make a meaningful impact in how we engage in the world, with others, and with ourselves.
I am sharing the exact question I asked myself in the hope that it helps you heal, expand, and grow into becoming the woman, Mom, wife, friend you want to be.
“What is the biggest limiting belief you’re buying into today, and how would your life change if you were to let it go?”
You can write it down. You can talk it out with a loved one. Just get it out. I want you to just imagine setting it free. Give yourself permission to believe anything is possible, just as you did before you starting forming beliefs when you were young.
When you’re ready, test yourself. What’s one step you can take that will move yourself forward in the direction you want to go? Make it small. Just create movement. In order to experience our deepest desires, we must compete in our own Spiritual Olympics. Remember that dedication and self-discipline you had as a child? I’m encouraging you to connect with it. Let it be the thread that brings you back to the belief that yes, anything is possible, and you can experience the life you desire. Each day continue to invest in your soul and nurture yourself. Infinite love for you,
Oh my goodness! I have been sooo excited to share this news with you! Last year, one of my sharpest colleagues, soul sisters, and someone I deeply admire came to me with an idea of writing a book. Before she could even finish, I was jumping up and down saying, “YES, YES, and YES.”
There were six of us who joined together, all from different backgrounds, but with one common mission: inspire women on a global scale to be their best selves, sharing our individual stories of struggle, renewal, and success.
The result after over a year of work: The Chalk Collective: Drawing The Life You Deserve, which is available digitally TODAY on Amazon HERE! The soft copy is coming soon. I promise.
I knew with every ounce of my body that the final product would be of great service to women around the world who are looking to change course in their lives and experience the fullness of who they really are.
What I underestimated was how much I would receive from recounting my own story. My intention is to inspire you to wake up in your own way and commit to experiencing ALL of who you’re here to become.
Without further ado, here’s what I learned and hope that all or parts resonate with you:
In a world where social media puts a glossy shine over everything, I experienced a great sense of liberation by sharing my truth. What you see is what you get, and I loved what I saw.
As long as I believed that my purpose lived outside of me, I would seek fulfillment there too rather than taking an inside-out approach. Once I switched my focus inwardly , I realized I could reach everything I desire right within me.
I have a responsibility to myself to show up as the real me. If I choose to play small, I’m keeping my gifts from other people. How selfish!
I’m responsible for own happiness; not my husband and, certainly not my children.
I can always work on my ability to RECEIVE, as giving comes quite naturally.
Staying connected to the highest vision I have for myself makes it easy to trust myself.
The more I take personal responsibility for my feelings of frustration, anger,, overwhelm, disappointment, or regret, the more I heal unresolved issues inside of me. This allows me to experience more harmony with myself and with my husband.
Saying goodbye to regret and guilt became easy when I recognized that every experience I had was an opportunity for my soul to learn something. This stretched and expanded me in ways I didn’t even know were possible.
Believing that Universe is working with me and totally has my back (oh, yes it does)
The more I strengthened my self-love — compassion, speaking up, and setting boundaries — the more connected I feel to myself and to others.
Wow, this is just the tip of the learning iceberg. I could keep going, and I want to encourage you to read the book. The other women featured are impactful and, like me, are committed to being real and experiencing the best version of who they’re here to become.
If this sparked something in you, I strongly encourage you to purchase the digital book HERE! If you feel called, I’d so strongly appreciate you sharing this INFO with your friends on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or via email. Please tag @consciousworkingmama, so I can thank you!
I’m so grateful to be on this path with each of you. Here’s to living a full life, one of meaning and experiencing successes in all areas. It’s your turn….
PS: If you know of anyone who is seeking change in their life, but feel stuck, this inspiring book is for them. You can purchase it HERE!