Self-Honoring Choices

Are you leading from your core VALUES?

We’re constantly moving into new seasons, albeit another birthday, children growing up, new job…

All of these can quickly cause busyness, overwhelm and as humans, our knee-jerk reaction is to cut stuff out. Only I see it all the time with my driven clients, the stuff that gets cut is the stuff that feeds their spirit. That fosters the most creative ideas and problem-solving.

I was reminded of this over the weekend, as I help run a Guild for Seattle Children’s Hospital with Mateo Messina, a dear friend and award-winning composer. This was our 23rd concert, and when I got involved over 16 years ago, neither Mateo or I had partners, children or mortgages. We both lived in Seattle and had all the time in the world to gather our group of volunteers and meet regularly in person.  Looking back, life seemed so simple, all though I remember feeling like we both had a lot going on. Ha! Little did we know.

Fast forward to this year, after taking two years off for the pandemic, with the help of our small, but mighty group of volunteers, we put on another symphony concert to raise money for Seattle Children’s Hospital.  Many of these volunteers live similar lives to Mateo and I, and also live outside of Seattle, Washington. It would have been so easy for any one of us to quit and focus on other priorities.

 

And yet, we didn’t. One might wonder where Mateo finds time to write a new symphony each year, let alone practice it, and I certainly get asked how I find time to host meetings regularly and keep the trains running on time w/ in the Guild.  There’s no magic answer, other than we commit and recommit. This year I brought all my boys up to see it, since only Felix had experienced it in the past. I loved having them there to experience this part of my life AND, you can imagine, it created additional responsibilities, especially since John, my husband, was in Germany all week for work. This is where we have to let go of perfection, and roll with the punches.


The answer is quite simple.

I’m crystal clear on my values and am very intentional about living and leading from them. 3 of my values are connection, experience and impact. In this example, the relationships I I have with the other volunteers are really special, and this fundraising event is nothing like any other experience I’ve had – I get goosebumps (the good kind) every time I hear one of Mateo’s concerts.

To know we’ve raised over $1M for Seattle Children’s Hospital over the years, blows my mind.

It requires discipline and re-commitment to lead and live from your values, but I promise you, the more you embody it, the more fulfilled you will be. The more ALIVE you will feel.

Need help identifying your values? I get it. Email me at Sarah@sarahgibbons.co and I’ll send you my values guide.

 

Love,

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It’s time you made a bigger IMPACT

I have some questions for you…

Are you wanting your team(s) to make a bigger impact?

Put out bolder creative solutions?

Attract a sexy new client?

Increase your revenue?

Grow your own leadership?

Experience way more FUN in the process?

We’re often told to swing for the fences and take the big risk, do the big ‘thing but what I notice from talking to Execs, Entrepreneurs and in my own business is it starts with taking time to do the mundane things that create consistency in all aspects of your business.

I know it’s often the things that don’t fire us up, however, getting consistent with things like reviewing talent monthly,not just annually, reviewing your financial goals and where you’re at daily, not just quarterly, and being intentional about outreach to potential clients, weekly, all contribute to a well oiled foundation.

In order to “do” the above, it requires commitment. Re-commitment. We’re all being pulled in a thousand different directions and our days can easily be experienced as distraction over distraction.

 


Here’s where I can help you so that you can make your BIG desire happen!

If you are getting distracted easily, there’s a high chance that you have energy leaks all over the place. Some of the most common ones I see in my clients are:

+ Ignoring boundaries and saying YES to everyone and everything
+ Not putting your basic needs first (rest, movement, diet, pleasure, connection)
+ Being agreeable instead of saying and doing the uncomfortable thing because you want to avoid ‘conflict’
+ Thinking life will get better when….. (fill in the blank) only nothing changes!
+ Feeling lonely because you’re at the top of your game and don’t feel like you have a community you can turn to and be super vulnerable because it wouldn’t be ‘appropriate’

If you’re nodding your head AND your willing to take the bull by it’s horns because YOU want more than ‘good or fine,’ than reach out. 


I’ve opened my doors to the one group program I’m running next year: ‘ The Board’. You can read all about it HERE, but what you need to know, is that I heavily curate this intimate group (10 or less) and is designed for:

👉️⁠ Men & Women who are just as excited about other people’s success as they are their own

👉️⁠ People who will not accept ‘fine or good’ and instead desire feeling deeply connected, alive, and calm while also making an even bigger impact AND increasing their revenue.

👉️⁠ People who are open-minded, kind and value integrity.
👉️⁠ People who value the experience along the way as much as traditional success.

👉️⁠ Men & women who are driven and have a track record for success.
*This is not a program for people just starting out.


You will get out of this program what you want, but most importantly you’ll transform your ability to create your life from your soul and your giant heart, rather than your head. Imagine all the self-trust and confidence that comes from living that way?!

Spots are filling up, so please don’t wait. Email me directly at sarah@sarahgibbons.co if you’d like to apply to be a part of the The Board 2023.

 

It’s time to bet on yourself,

 

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What I learned from Norman Lear

When it comes to hearing inspiring people talk, I’ve seen a lot of really incredible people over the years. Truth be told, I’ve never quite had the experience like I had last week.

My dear friends, founders of Creative Visions, Amy and Kathy Eldon, set up an intimate conversation between John Turtletaub and Norman Lear.

Norman Lear is known for his story-telling talents as a Screenwriter, film and television Producer (responsible for shows like Allin the Family, The Jeffersons, Good Times, The Facts of Life….and so so so much more) and his ability to impact equality through the arts.

But what I love about this man is who he embodies as a human being. And I’m confident after experiencing him, it’s the reason he just celebrated his 100th Birthday. Ya’ll, he walked out on stage!!

I can’t even begin to describe the surge of energy, laughter, truth and heart-felt connection I felt throughout my whole body as he answered each question ever so presently and candidly. I walked away so grateful for this experience because it gave me confirmation on what I’ve suspected all along

*BEING NICE* is a key ingredient to success and living a healthy long life despite most of the world dismissing this quality. 

 


The word *nice* I find gets overlooked.

It’s the quality that I worry feels too light, maybe even weak, and not special enough. Yet, I often find myself in conversations w/ my husband at the end of the day saying something like, ‘if we can just raise nice boys’ I’ll feel like I’ve fulfilled my motherly duties.

As Norman put it, *nice* is the quality that slows us down. Right there, is the challenge.

Who the heck wants to slow down?!  Yet, it’s the quality that has us look up from our phones, smile at a stranger, hold the door open for others, say please and thank you. It’s also the quality that, when we’re in argument with our partners, has us *think twice* about our words in an attempt to fight fairly, and not attack one’s character.

Beyond that, it’s the way of being that fosters being generous with our time, energy and money, empathetic to others situations and compassionate towards ourselves and others when we experience disappointment.
It’s the very quality that allows others to feel seen, appreciated, and acknowledged. Most importantly, connected to ourselves and others. From there, doors open. The impossible becomes possible.


Imagine a world where each of us are 5 degrees *nicer* than we currently are? What would you experience MORE of in your life?

Norman also confirmed for me that laughter, or call it fun, has to be a part of every day.  Norman’s pretty confident that the reason he hit the century mark, is that he has prioritized JOY in his life.

If there’s one theme I hear all the time from my coaching conversations, it’s “I want to experience more joy, levity and laughter.”

I observe people being resigned in one part of their life. It looks something like, “I don’t have a choice. It’s just how it is.”  If you’re craving more laughter, then take a look at your life where you feel you’re at the mercy of your circumstances. Once we get clear on where we really are, we can wake up and consider another choice.

We can never have another Norman Lear, but we can learn from everything he’s put on this Earth while he’s been here.

The lesson to show up as our most alive selves, messiness and all, to be *nice* always, and to prioritise joy. And guess what? It’s contagious.

Much love,

 

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Have things been feeling “Messy?”

I have a few questions for you,

When’s the last time you answered the question, “How’s it going?” with the real stuff, and not just, “I’m good, but busy and tired.”?

When was the last time you sat at another human’s dining room table and talked about your relationships, your work, your health, your worries, politics or your faith and really felt like you were the only one that mattered in that moment?

When’s the last time you totally let your guard down and asked for help?

When’s the last time you said NO and didn’t worry about others liking you less?

When’s the last time you felt like quitting, and someone said to you… ‘oh no you don’t.’ This is who you are and you owe it to yourself to go for it?

Hmm?…

Over the last 6 months I found myself craving a deeper sense of community, particularly around my desire to live a more soul-filling life, which means really being choosy in how I spend my energy. Still ambitious, but a more simplified, intentional version of life. I was craving spaciousness and connection that was not only deeper but had a wider range.

What I’ve realized is that we’re sold community, as if the minute you join a group you’re going to instantly feel like you’ve made best friends; you know friends who totally get you and see you.

This isn’t really the case!

Finding a community of your people is a combination of laser-sharp facilitating and showing up fully in SELF.

Even then, I find the getting-to-know-each-other phase can be a bit slow, especially if you haven’t met in person. Real community can be awkward, boring, average and, dare I say ‘just fine.’

I’ve just come off a weekend spending time in person with a community I recently joined. Thank you Allison Crow for creating Cultivate;  a group of female business owners, all craving a more soul-filling biz and life. Our group connection started with meetings over zoom and at times it felt nice, sometimes awkward, average and dare I say ‘fine.’ What I realized after spending time together in person this past weekend, is that if we want to experience the kind of community where we feel completely understood and seen, we have to fully show up.

I don’t mean fake it until you make it, I mean here are my dreams, biggest fears, things that keep me up at night, shame stories and everything in-between.

What I’ve experienced time and time again is that when I show up with all my parts, all my stories and give people my full presence, real community is created and this is what is life changing.

Each time I’ve elevated to the next level in my marriage, motherhood, or my business, it’s because of one belief I swear by. Revolutionary growth happens inside revolutionary relationships!

I can’t imagine not having a group to lean into who has my back, believes in me 100%, accepts me exactly as I am encouraging me to choose discomfort over resentment, and reminds me who I am when I forget.

Connection is the gift at the heart of community. It’s not just about depth, it’s about range.

So… how’s your relationship to communities?


I know for me the more I let go of the dream of experiencing an ‘ideal’ community and I embrace the messy, real community, which means I show up from my truest self, I experience belonging. Boom. That’s when transformation happens. When one human transforms in a group, you better believe there’s a ripple.

If this kind of community resonates with you, email me. I have something to discuss with you.

 

Much love,

 

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What’s your Achilles heel that gets in the way of you leading?

Here’s what I’m noticing this week…

We live in a world of information overload  –  right?  – and it’s easy to get sucked into thinking that the more we know, the more we’ll become better leaders. As if by simply reading or listening to ‘the best 5 tools’ will translate to new behavior.

Information doesn’t equal transformation. Just because you might have a new tool in your kit, by no means will it extinguish you humanness. Your humanness can show up in the form of your Achilles Heel. 

SO WHAT TO DO

If you really want to up your game in how you show up and lead, start by getting clear on what your Achilles Heel is. And rather than trying to banish that part of you, build a relationship with it. I’m learning loads about the IFS model, and really subscribe to the idea that all of our parts are welcome (e.g. the anxiousness, the judgment etc) and we learn to build relationships with these parts, we experience so much more confidence and self-trust.

“Build a relationship with your Achilles Heel”

Here are some of the most common ways I see my people getting in their own way of leading. In other words, their Achilles Heel:

  • Self-doubt
  • Choosing comfort over discomfort
  • Trying to get it right, which creates analysis paralysis
  • Too many priorities
  • Working on what’s urgent instead of what’s important
  • Not asking for help

Once you’ve identified it, have a conversation with that part of you and find out what it needs you to know.  Now, this can be a 2-minute conversation.


It looks something like this…

*My Achilles Heel is trying to get it right, so I might say to my ‘trying to get it right part’….

SG: Trying to Get it Right – I see you. What do you want me to know?”

Trying to Get it Right: “I’m worried that if you get it wrong, you’ll feel stupid.”

SG: “I see you wanting to protect me. Thank you for that, AND, just because I might not get something right, doesn’t mean I’m stupid. I can always course correct. I’m committed to putting myself out there instead of playing it safe. I’m going to need you to step to the side while I be brave.”

Each time I talk TO the part that’s feeling triggered and trying to get my attention, I feel myself re-centered and ready to rock.

These parts of us that get in the way of us showing up and being who we’re meant to be, don’t have to derail us. They can actually help us. 

If you try this exercise on, let me know how it goes. This is something you can do on the fly and be a quick exercise, but hugely profound.  We owe it to ourselves first and foremost to show up as the brightest and fullest version of ourselves.

 

Much love,

 

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Stop wanting… and do THIS instead.

I have a bee in my bonnet about all the talk I hear in the self-help world as it relates to wanting and manifesting desires, because it’s simply not enough to ‘want.’

I think back to when I was desiring a career that invigorated me, while making a positive impact on humanity and still paid me good $$.  The years were passing by and I felt stagnant and underwhelmed.

It simply wasn’t enough for me too ‘want to do something different.’  I had desires, but I wasn’t doing anything about it.

Even with the most colorful & inspiring vision board in my office, *nothing* and I mean *nothing* was happening.

It wasn’t until an Executive coach I was working with at the time suggested I consider checking out a grad school program for Spiritual Psychology and I consciously chose to go the open house.

It was the act of *choosing* that changed my life forever.

 

After attending the open house, I chose to have a convo w/ John about applying for the two year program.

From there, I chose to apply and got accepted.

If someone had told me 10 years later I’d be running a massive 6 figure coaching business spending time with people who inspire me, I’m not sure I would have believed them. I didn’t have a detailed business plan, but I did have the inner knowledge to keep choosing what I wanted.

– Choosing vs. Wanting. There’s no competition. –

 

If you’re wanting something to be different in your life, it begins with your leadership and choosing is one way you can harness your power.

I’ll be diving more into choosing vs wanting at TIDAL.

In case you missed the announcement last week, I’ll be hosting my TIDAL workshop on Sept. 17th from 9am PT- Noon PT and the theme this year is “Learn how to Harness Your Leadership Power.”

You’ll walk away with a refined relationship to the term ‘leadership’ and clear next steps (Hint: it’s not as corporate and boring as you might think, it’s about your POWER in every moment).

 

I believe in connection and community as key ingredients to stepping more fully into your life, so everything about Tidal is designed in such a way that you experience self-connection and belonging.

Now more than ever I see ALL of us craving connection.

Grab your ticket HERE. For all my introverts, don’t worry. I got you. You’ll be held in the brave container we co-create together.

 

Much love,

 

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Money Money Money…

Money is on my mind this week as I filled up my car this weekend and $100 didn’t even fill my tank. Not to mention all this talk about a recession. Seriously?! There’s a massive sense of unknown right now, and I’m noticing how it’s bringing up my client’s money stuff (me included) and it’s nerve-wracking.

All relationships are important in life, but our relationship to the money I find is one of the most important because if we get careless with it, you’ll find yourself living anxiously and full of doubt. Our monkey minds can take over in a heartbeat.

Money comes and goes, but how we relate to it on a daily basis is our leadership being called forward. What’s even more important is the energy behind our relationship to money, which is an area I’m constantly revisiting. It’s like a garden. You have to keep checking in on it, watering it so that your flowers continue to flourish and not dry up!

I know the topic of money can bring up so much angst for people, but in service to supporting you in this area, here are a couple of go-two habits that I’ve found wildly helpful in transforming my relationship to money.

1)

On a very regular basis, ask yourself, “What do I really want to use money for?” Being crystal clear with your answer will bolster your connection to your desire and motivate you in times of uncertainty.

2)

Get clear on where your energy leaks are around money. Make a list of outstanding debts, bills etc and revisit it weekly. You’ll be surprised at how your energy goes up when you close loops around money.

3)

Be willing to be honest and transparent on a daily basis with your relationship to money, and stop ‘wanting.’ Willing is different than wanting. When I’m on a call with a client and they’re telling me they want to make $1M, there’s no action in that statement. However, if they’re willing to look at their finances daily, if they’re willing to set tangible goals, if they’re willing to own why they want to make $1M they are stepping into action.
Btw, the number of zero’s you have in your bank account have very little to do with your relationship to money. I work with people regularly who have excessive bank accounts, and they too are taking the same actions above to ensure they are financially and energetically fit.

Speaking of $$, I want to transparently share that my team and I have been working on the next Tidal Summit for September ’22 and getting our heads around what the cost should actually be.

SAVE THE DATE! Sept 17th in the morning (details coming).

With all of this swirl around finances the coaching business can be one of the first things to cut (I see it all the time) as it can feel like an add-on, luxury item. We won’t get into that now, but I get it. So I’m working out how to ensure that Tidal Summit (virtual) is as accessible to you as possible, while still being a meaningful and tangible investment in yourself.

Here’s to strengthening our relationship to money so we can experience all the wealth we desire.

Much love,

 

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August, Already?!

Golly gee whizz, time goes fast. I’m on a two-week holiday up in the PNW, and it’s been wonderful and tiring at the same time – traveling with 4 boys. Grateful for my amazing husband. ⁠

⁠The woman in this photo is like a 2nd grandma to me, and she’s going to be turning 90 this December – which I’m always reminded after spending a week with her, age is simply a number. It all comes down to attitude. And how great is that red suit?!

I’m in rest mode, so intentionally not focused on enrolling, but my team nudged me to share what I have going on come Sept because it’s all good stuff. I know some of you are planners!!⁠

 

Things are feeling FULL steam ahead. Here are ways you can get supported by me in the very near future:

REGISTER FOR THE MOTHER BOARD NOW!

 

REGISTER FOR TIDAL 2022 NOW – $175 early bird price until August 10th!

 

Much love,

 

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We All Need a Safe Harbor

Anyone else find themselves needing space over the last couple of days to mentally, emotionally and physically recharge from ALL that is going on in the world?!

I spent time with John and our oldest son (littles are still away at sleepaway camp) doing a whole lot of nothing and I LOVED IT. I found myself shying away from big groups and wanting to hang with my family, where I know they have my back no matter what.

It really got me thinking about how much as humans we crave a safe harbor. A place we can pull into at any time and dock.  Even if we’re in rough waters there’s a sense that we can feel buoyed in the midst of the unstableness.

Now more than ever are you finding that you crave a sense of belonging?

Those people that totally get you?! The kind of relationships that when you share, you instinctively feel like you’re the only person that matters to them in that moment?

Those people that have the guts to tell you the truth (from a place of love) because they’re more committed to seeing you fully BE even if ruffles you a bit, vs. saying the thing that keeps you comfortable?

For me, I have my husband, but I also have a group I’ve invested in that has become my safe harbor.  It’s been a place for me to nurture my heart while also getting honest support around being a business owner, a mother, and a wife.

Sometimes we *think* we have a safe harbor, but we come to realize it lacks depth – SG

 

Are you desiring a greater sense of belonging, where you not only feel totally seen, but you can receive honest and open feedback on actions you’re taking to move your goals (personal and work) forward?

If you are, we should talk. You can email me at Sarah@sarahgibbons.co. For my working Mothers, I have an immediate opportunity for you to consider. I’ll be going live about  The Mother Board tomorrow at 8am PST.

Tune in via my LinkedIn OR on my Facebook Page.

Much love,

 

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Are you making everything significant in your life?

Something has happened in the last few years (ok… a lot has happened) but *in* this moment, I’m really noticing how we make *everything* have so much significance.

I notice it everywhere.

I notice it with business owners, who get stuck taking action because they’re so fixated on knowing their purpose.

I notice it with people in various seasons of life.

The 50 somethings who crave a different kind of purpose in their life then they’ve had, but are concerned about agism. Not saying that they don’t have evidence as to why they should be,  but I’ve noticed how much it contributes to their worry.

I notice it with the upcoming driven 20+ somethings who feel they MUST know their purpose in the first quarter of the life.

So much significance placed on every bloody exchange, that it can become a real time suck and energy drain.

So much pressure!


I notice I do it with my husband when he writes to me and doesn’t reference me by the nickname he calls me.  Before I know it, I place so much significance on the exchange, that it causes me to question myself, question him, our relationship.


My intention for pointing to this, isn’t to have a conversation as to why us humans make so much significance out of things, because I think we know why (hello technology that has us connected 24/7, hello expectations and ambition that can cause us to obsess over details).

Instead, my goal is to help you see where you create unnecessary significance in your life,  and by doing so, it’s that *leadership* that’s actually getting in the way of you having a better life.

Consider what happens to you when you give something a lot of significance? Do you start to over-analyze? Do you get stuck in the paradox of choice and not make any movement? Do you become overly prickly and barky with your partner?

When I start to give something a lot of significance I notice I have soooooo much expectation, so much desire to get it all right, and ultimately not a lot of trust.

My leadership in those moments are very much rooted in doubt.

One of the breakthroughs I’ve been actively creating this year in my leadership is instead of holding everything with so much significance, holding things with more grace and ultimately being grace. Which to me means a few things:

+ Assuming the other person has positive intent.

+ Being okay with murkiness and sometimes that means only knowing the very next baby step I’m taking, but not the one after it.

+  Letting myself change my mind and being okay with others changing their mind.


Question for you…

In service to your leadership, what in your life are you making significant, and if you were to hold it slightly differently, how would your life improve for the better?


The #1 desire I hear my clients want day in and day out is more inner peace. A sense of calm. A sense of spaciousness. As I deepen in my leadership and practice not making every dang thing so significant, I notice a much greater sense of calm. If this speaks to you, give it a go and let me know you get on with it.

 

Much Love,

 

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Are you falling into the “Connection” trap?

For all my peeps out there whose #1 value is connection, read this carefully as you might be falling into the trap that I notice a lot of my community, clients and friends are.
Now more than ever as we emerge from 2 years working at home, little to know travel and/or interactions with others, we’re all craving connection. So much so, that we often choose a connection over saying what we really need to say.
I was working with a company’s president this week and we were discussing a conversation that he was planning on having with one of his C-Suite Execs that was the kind of conversation that if it didn’t happen, they’d have a major issue with retention in the near future.
I noticed every time we started to talk about the intention behind the conversation, how we was going to show up and what he was going to say, he would start to squirm and get distracted with other priorities. It was obvious he didn’t want to have this conversation and just the thought of if was bringing up a ton of discomfort.
This president values integrity as much as connection, but when it came to the possible thought of having a conversation that could trigger a colleague and cause a possible argument, he was paralyzed by fear. So relatable right?!

 

 

We live in a world that’s constantly telling us to ‘Be authentic. Speak up. Tell your truth.’  Yet, even when the stakes are high in the boardroom, or at home with our partners or our children, how many times do we (YOU) choose connection over authenticity, thinking they’re mutually exclusive?

Let’s be real.

There is a massive impact on each one of us when we choose comfort and connection over speaking up.

Where, in your life, are you avoiding sharing your most authentic self, because you’re prioritizing connection even though it’s at the cost of you really sharing yourself?

Think about it.

I bet you don’t have to look too far.

We’re human and we have a bias for comfort – but the last thing we need in this world is people avoiding speaking up and dancing around the truth.

 

Will you be courageous today and share your authentic self over connection in the moment?

Guess what… More times than not, the more authentic you are, the greater sense of true connection you end up creating in the long run.

 

Much Love,

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Administering CPR to your Creativity

For all my people who live by checklists, and go through the day trying to ‘get it all done in EVERY area of your life, this is for you.

From one driven leader to another, going about your day that way can feel really dang good in the moment, *but* it can leave you feeling burned out and even worse – UNINSPIRED

When I feel uninspired, nothing works – I’m disconnected from my work, my family, and myself. Ugg.

So what can you do?!!?

Last week I spent the week at Camp Cultivate, which is an annual retreat that takes place in Dripping Springs Texas and is the brainchild of my amazing friend and life coach Allison Crow.
When we walked into the gorgeous room where we were going to be for the 4 days, she had a set of paints on every woman’s seat (50) and colored pens.

Throughout the whole week, I found myself picking up the paints to draw metaphors for what I wanted to remember. Each day went on, I found myself settling more into my body and less in my head. New ideas were coming to me and I started to experience even more ease around my business and what’s next for the back half of 2022.

I know you might be thinking there’s nothing new about this idea of using color markers and paints, but here’s what I know about myself and my community!
We often don’t, because we’re so busy, the idea of anything that could slow down productivity gets an eye roll.

If you want to experience more of your creative brilliance, I’m telling you, get your paints and pens out and carry them everywhere.

Do NOT underestimate what happens when the little child in you gets to draw.

To BE inspired and commit to leading from your heart, THIS is one brilliant way that will crack it open.

So this week I’ll ask…

If you were feeling more inspired today, what would you put your energy toward that would have you feeling more alive than ever?

Commit to taming your busy and reignite your creativity,

 

Much Love,

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Pt. 2 of How we bought our house…

Where do you start when you desire something that is outside of your comfort zone and therefore stirs up all kinds of resistance?

Glad you asked. You start with a VISION.

If you missed last week’s post, take a beat and read HERE for an intentional and simple take on writing a vision (that I guarantee will set you up for success).

For those of you who have your vision around something you desire, this is where manifestation enters the picture. First, I must set the record straight. Praying and reading your vision every day is NOT going to deliver the results you might read on social media.

Connecting with your vision daily is key, you must put structure around your vision, so that you align intentional action with your intention. Think about it. This is why most New Year’s Resolutions fail. My friend Jen decides she wants to lose 15 pounds so she can feel lighter and run a half marathon later in the year. Jen claims she’s going to go to workout 3x a week and eat healthier. While that might sound like structure, it’s lacking a few important pieces that will support her on the days that she feels like skipping her workout and eating ice cream.

 


If you really want to actualize your vision, here’s the tried and true structure I use that turns my goals into a project, making it much more attainable:

1) WHY is this desire/ goal important to you?

2) How do you want to feel as you experience the creation of this desire?
Note: We often ignore this as we’re so attached to the result, but the process can be equally as fulfilling as the result
3) A clear vision
(which you’ve likely already done)
4) Declarations timeline.
In other words a what by when. This is often where people get tripped up, because they don’t declare what they’re going to do by when and so very little movement happens.
5)  Rewards tied to your Declarations  – Do NOT skip this step.
Just like children, we to follow through when rewarded along the way. What will you gift yourself when you complete each declaration?
(This is your project plan so you get to decide)

You can complicate this all you want, but I find the above structure has served me in creating a very lucrative business w/ the type of clients that truly inspire me, a house that I love calling home, a marriage I’m proud of and so much more.

Question:

What small action will you take by this Friday to continue to actualize your biggest desire?

 

I believe in you,

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The secret behind how we bought our house…

So thinking more about this week and where you could shift some of your focus…
Your Vision

 

I kind of shocked myself mid-week when I was looking at an old vision exercise I had done for myself, and realized when it came to visualizing a future home I wanted for my family and I…we now have it. we literally have what I put in a vision I wrote, and I didn’t even realize it

In the middle of the Pandemic, against many odds, we bought a house.

But we didn’t buy just any house, we bought a house that truly aligned with our vision.

This word gets tossed around a lot, but it’s something I put a lot of energy into with my own desires and my clients. The purpose of a vision, as I see it, is to get clear on what it is you want and how you want to experience it.

The mistake I see a lot of people make is they have ideas in their head around what they want, but they don’t take the time to write them down and create a clear vision.

So…
The #1 Most Important Thing to do That Everyone Skips Over: Write a Clear Vision DOWN.

It’s the 1st thing you have to do to get closer to actualizing your desires. It’s something I do at the start of each year, and at the beginning of each new desire I have because it lays the foundation for the road map needed to actualize the particular desire.

 


 

Here’s a sneak behind the curtain on what my 2021 vision was about our new home…

“We’re living in a house that is NW Modern – or spanish style – it has a yard w/ a pool or on lake. A hot tub. Upstairs. A big kitchen we can cook in. A counter where boys are sitting and we collect in late evenings or early mornings. A garden w/ veggies. Tall, natural trees around. An open door policy. A place to read that’s cozy. A big fireplace. Big open, tall windows. Clean feeling, not cluttered. Art that we’ve collected over the years. Walking distance to a high street. Surrounded by beauty- bricks, old town…. Interesting people. I see myself in this house w/ music playing through it, it feels airy, light and spacious but isn’t massive. It feels lived in and cozy.”

 

The house we bought is spot on and you should know we didn’t have an agent nor were we actively looking. On a walk we noticed this house for sale and couldn’t believe how much it aligned with my vision. The whole experience was rooted in ease, which is something I’ve been wanting to experience more of the last couple of years. Side note- be as specific as possible. I mentioned I wanted *brick* and boy did we get a lot of brick (including two showers made out of brick).

So for your Coaching Call-Out, this week can you….
Consider what it is you really want AND do you have a vision for it?

If not, write it down on paper in the present tense and let yourself really go there. Do not limit yourself. Remember, the universe likes specificity so don’t be afraid to put it down even if it feels crazy or not possible!

 

P.S. This is a two-part series. Next week, I’ll share what’s next once you have your clear vision. We have to work in reality – it’s not as simple as just write a vision and then hope and pray for it.

Use this week to give yourself permission to own your desires and put them on paper.

Because next week, we’ll be diving into part two- actualizing your vision,

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The GOLD I learned this week with MY coach

I was on the phone with my coach last week and came in quite hot around a situation that had me feeling misunderstood. I could feel the fire in my belly. As a result, I was showing up quite impatient and preoccupied – which is such a crappy feeling.

Can you relate?

As I worked through this and took a look at my part in the situation, I had a real aha moment and wanted to share it with you because I have a hunch it will serve you.

 

When something begins to feel messy, I want it resolved immediately. I apply a sense of urgency. I see it in numerous areas of my life.

  • Dirty Dishes in the sink? Not in my house, but I’ll martyr if I’m the one always doing them.
  • Disagreement with John? I want a resolution. Stat.
  • Boys bickering? I’m reliable to tell them to stop immediately.

Sound familiar?

The impact this has on me (thank you to my coach for reflecting this back to me)  is…
I operate over the top of things in an attempt to button things up. Close the loop. Which leaves me feeling resentful because I haven’t taken time to be with my thoughts when it comes to a disagreement, or ask for help when it comes to a household chore.


 

I realized I’m quite uncomfortable giving myself time and space to be with my thoughts and feelings. But there’s so much gold in doing so.

It’s a muscle I’m working on strengthening, and a super important one because the more we can give ourselves abundance of time and space, the more we’re able to see our part in things.

The more we can see our part, the more we can discern what’s true vs. assumed.

From that place, it’s a lot easier to lead from love even if we don’t agree with the situation.

If you’re one of my people, I’m asserting the impact you want to have in the world is one from a place of love and possibility

 

So for this week, I’d love for you to consider…

The next time you feel ticked off….

 

I believe in you,

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Will 2022 be your mind-heart-blowing year?

THIS WEEKS LEADERSHIP INSIGHT
Experience JOY while finishing STRONG.

 

I ran competitively most of my childhood and one of the things I learned very quickly (in a 300M hurdle race) was when people were in eyesight of the finish line they would exhale, literally. Following the exhale they would go into cruise control. They wouldn’t necessarily back off, but they’d cruise.

That was my cue to give it everything I got, pump my arms, lengthen my stride, and lock eyes 100 yards past the finish line.

When I look at how I finish my year, business or personal, it’s no different.

The goal is to experience JOY in the midst of finishing strong.

For my super-driven people who naturally finish the year strong, pay close attention to the experience you’re having.
I bet you’re reliable to create results, but where I see an opportunity for you, is to focus on the experience while you’re taking action.
When I finished a race, I would be in my zone. I didn’t actually feel like I was “working harder” but I was committed. Because of that commitment, I felt God partnering with me (insert what you believe) and because of that, (humbly) I generally won.

Coaching Question
We have 4 weeks left in the year, and if you’re committed to having a heart-blowing 2022, then how will you choose to BE and what action will you take to finish the year strong? (Hint: who you BE has everything to do with who you are)


 

For anyone who wants additional support, pls email me and I’ll share you with a special ‘End of The Year’ process I’ve been doing with my clients for years that has helped them actualize desires that they never thought was possible.

Remember, anything is possible. Truly.

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Are you too busy to accept an opportunity?

THIS WEEKS LEADERSHIP INSIGHT

If you’re too busy to say yes to something you really want, are you willing to lead from a different quality in order to create it?

Almost all of my clients, and myself included, have a bias for action. We like to plow through things and get it done. That also tends to mean that are schedules are packed. Sound familiar?

Part 2 to that, those packed, productive days can also mean that when opportunities we really really want come up (professional, creative, personal, fun) we don’t know what to do.


We freeze, and often turn them down completely. Also sound familiar?
Case in Point: I was at a wedding a few weeks ago and one of my clients spontaneously invited me to the 3% Conference in Atlanta in two weeks.

I didn’t tell her this, but I’m telling you. My initial thought…. “Is she crazy? That would mean rescheduling nearly 15 client meetings across three days. And the boys… what about the boys, the homework, the cooking, and and and…”

…. Clearly, that came from fear.

Then I thought….” is she being serious?”
All the while I could feel a burst of positive energy and excitement course through my body.

Experience and impact are two values I live by, and the 3% Conference is something I’ve wanted to participate in for years. In a nutshell it’s a very established movement in the creative world that believes (as do I) that more women & more diversity = MORE creativity  + more profitability.


Without speaking to my team, my husband, my kids, I blurted, “HELL YES.”
I let go of how I would make it all work and I chose to lead from trust.I get it, I really do. Leadership happens in the moment. Busy bees like us can get such tunnel vision and addicted to the high of planning and completing things, that we deny ourselves the joy of living in the moment.
But there’s another way to lead.

So this week in your leadership…

Can you identify what you’re craving, and then identify what QUALITY you need to lead from to experience that desire.

I chose trust. My team, my family, my own ability. To communicate changes and decide what things can be pushed back or let go. And I know you can choose a different quality to lead from too.

 

Stay tuned as I share my key takeaways and leadership growth from the 3% Conference this week (follow me on socials if you don’t already)!

I’m so glad we’re in this together learning and growing,

XX,

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Was anyone ready for this week?

We’re on the brink of the holiday season and I’m slipping into old patterns.
We waited until this week to sort out Halloween costumes, and Amazon was not an option (gone are the days of excitement and appreciation for my handmade Halloween costumes). Sure enough, we were driving from one Halloween store to another trying to track down a very specific costume.

I could feel the tiredness and irritability setting in. As I was sitting in peak LA traffic with one of my boys and literally asking myself, “What are we doing? Did I learn anything from COVID?” The impact of my choice to drive around looking for one specific costume felt chaotic and wasn’t in alignment with the feeling of grace and ease I desire.

Does anyone else relate to leaving something to the last minutes only to create a chaotic, frustrating experience for yourself?
But I caught it – I noticed that I was leading from that place of chaos and frustration and I checked it.
If anything, COVID taught me to roll with things – to stay open – to lead from a place of flexibility and to model that for those around me.
That’s how leadership works. It’s a choice. It requires us to be an active participant. Even if you’re facing extreme circumstances, it still comes down to you choosing leadership from moment to moment. And yes, it can feel very uncomfortable.

I have a hunch that the holidays are going to test us this year. Most of us are still climbing out of a dark hole adjusting to socializing again. Sorting out the dance between supporting our own needs while also delivering on all of our commitments.

As we approach the holiday season, what quality will you choose to lead from in service to having the experience you desire?

I’m choosing openness, with the intention of not being attached to an outcome because I know that’s how pinch-me-moments happen. Bring on the ease and grace, please!

I can’t wait.

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Do you CHOOSE possibility or do you argue for your limitations?

Today’s leadership kick: Where do you argue for your limitations/life circumstances instead of choosing possibility?

I just returned from 4 days in the majestic National Zion Park, where I hosted the retreat for The Board. These women have spent 9 months consistently choosing to show up for each other and themselves. Through two hour group coaching calls they grew their leadership and experience into the most authentic and powerful version of themselves.  These women, like you, live very active lives. CEO’s, Entrepreneurs, Mothers, and had every good reason to cancel up until the last minute…BUT they didn’t.

They chose to come.

They chose to lead from curiosity.

Courage.
Growth.
Desires.

They chose to BE uncomfortable.

 

Where most people want something different but continue to cling to cruise control, these women chose otherwise.

A lot of people talk about wanting to grow their leadership by reading a self-help book or listening to a podcast, but then get distracted with life and rarely anything changes
Not my people.

These women experienced their edge when it came to their own leadership last weekend. I was reminded that there is no replacement for experiencing coaching in the great outdoors.  There’s a depth in the connection that gets created and that lends itself, so beautifully, to people dropping their armor and opening their hearts to being a stand for one another.


Ah-ha Highlights

At one point, one of the women said how much she loved the hike, but hated having to look down all the time to avoid tripping on the rocks.  Hours later realizing that was a telling metaphor for how she shows up in life –

if she’s constantly focused on what’s WAY out in front of her, it can lead to future tripping ⇢ which can stir up anxiety and in-action.
Realizing there are times where it’s necessary to focus on what’s right in front of her if she wants to take action and make changes.


Another Board member noticed she often chose to be in the back of the hikes, and when she would move to the front of the group, she felt wildly uncomfortable! She made it mean, in her head, that somehow she wasn’t as strong of a leader as the other women because she wasn’t in the front. Only to realize that leadership doesn’t look one way –  and for her, hanging back and bringing up the rear allowed her to lead authentically.

If it weren’t for these women sitting in their discomfort and expanding their ability to sit in it, they wouldn’t have experienced these insights.

Subtle yes. Transformative, you better believe it. 

You can read a version of this kind of growth somewhere, but when you experience it, embody it, that’s when you physically begin to show up differently in situations and lead from a more conscious place.

SO….WITH THAT

I have so much more to share, but for now, consider, “Who do you want to BE?”

How will you choose to BE in order to show up in leadership in ALL areas of your life?

If you’re one of my people and believe revolutionary growth happens inside revolutionary relationships, DM me to learn more about The Board 2022. We start in Feb. and the first spot has already been claimed! And…I’ll be announcing something very special about The Board for 2022 this week that has ME leaning into my edge.

Will you choose YOU this coming year?
Never underestimate possible.

I believe in you,

XX,

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Preparing for something important?

Today’s leadership kick: Before that big event or meeting, take the time to create a vision for how you want to experience it. Then let that vision guide the choices you make.

This Friday I’ll be heading to Zion National Park with a group of incredibly driven, open-hearted, growth-minded women who have been part of my group coaching program over the last 9 months.

These are driven women who wear many different hats.  They are committed to growing their own leadership while at the same time being a stand for one another in a very honest, transparent and open-hearted way. It’s required a big investment of time, money, and energy. So now we’re off to do the work in-person in the midst of magical Zion.

For me, there was a time leading up to big meetings and events where the week prior would feel chaotic. I’d have an endless list of things to do, and quite frankly, wasn’t a whole lot of fun to be around because of how much pressure I’d put on myself. The big meeting/event would ultimately go well but the experience leading up was so far from what I wanted and I simply put I didn’t know any other way to BE.

How do you show up prior to an important work event?
  • Do you jam-pack your schedule?
  • Over-prepare to the point where you’re staying up late and then feel rubbish the next morning?
  • Do you become snippy with people around you?
  • Do you question if you know enough?
  • Do you obsess over all the details?
  • Do you feel a huge sense of relief when you actually get on the other side of the event?

If any of the above resonates with you, I so get it. I’ve realized through my own growth that the experience leading up to the event/meeting is equally important to me.

In fact, I often find it’s more enjoyable or equal to the event itself.  As I go into the final week leading up to this retreat now, I still feel a variety of emotions: excitement, jitters, a bit of anxiousness – but above all I feel calm and grounded.

That question will draw you into the present moment, and from there you can choose to course correct and lead from such qualities like curiosity, vulnerability, grace, etc.. And as a bonus, here’s a pro-tip.

Regardless of how big the event or meeting is, take time to create a vision for how you want to experience it. This will give altitude while also connecting you to the experience, instead of focusing on the end result. Length of your vision doesn’t matter, so don’t get caught up! Write your vision in the present tense and remember, it’s this vision or something even better for your highest good.

Then let that vision guide the choices you make.

For example: I’ve cleared my evenings this week, so I have space to relax and rest. I’ve also let colleagues know that I’ll be less available this week. Not so I can fill that time but so I can create space. That space is what allows me to lead with a wide-open heart. This is the key to being an impactful and effective leader.

I’ll be sharing more about Zion as I have insights and learnings for you all, but in the meantime, slow your roll if you want to experience the gold that’s available to you in those BIG moments.

I believe in you,

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Do you judge yourself?

Today’s leadership kick: It’s hard to show up in leadership if you’re full of judgment.

I had a doozy of a day last week. I was in a coaching session with a client who generously provided some feedback and my ego had a heyday. Before I knew it I had a pit in my stomach, I started to sweat, and my speaking sped up. I started talking too much, which is always a sign that I’m working way too hard trying to prove something. I’d lost my way, clearly, and it felt crappy in the moment and even crappier when I got off the call.

Fortunately for me, I had my weekly call with two coaches I work with directly after.  By this point, I was in a giant shame spiral and wishing I’d handled it differently.

One of the coaches gracefully reminded me about a concept from one of my favorite leadership books, ‘Getting Real’: the idea that I can go out and come back in.
As soon as she said it, my little voice went: ‘my clients, friends, and children get do-overs, but I certainly don’t.

Then it hit me. Why the heck not?!

I realized I have a pattern. When I don’t get something right, I beat myself up about it, leaking energy all over the place, which in turn keeps me from “going back in” and giving myself a do-over.  And because I had little-to-no self-forgiveness for how I’d shown up, I had zero capacity to see what was possible by going back to the client and cleaning it up.

” It’s hard to show up in leadership if who you’re BEING in the moment is full of judgment.”

So I got to work on the self-forgiveness bit – I’ll share practical pro tips on that in the coming weeks. I found compassion for ‘not getting it right the first time.’  Then I was empowered to go back to my client and have the conversation again but from a place of responsibility and accountability. 

It was another reminder that we have leadership moments all day long. The more we choose to BE in leadership, to cause leadership vs. be at the effect of it, the more we’re able to experience possibility and compassion for ourselves.

I believe in you,

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Are you Decisive?

Today’s leadership kick: Close one of your biggest ENERGY LEAKS by improving your decision-making skills

* Do you wake up with a million thoughts going through your head and debate for a few minutes where to begin?

* Do you debate decisions at work, causing you to spend extra energy on something, only to leave you feeling depleted and anxious?

* Do you stare at your clothes and question what to wear only to default to the same go-to outfit?

* Do you debate taking that guys/girl’s trip and end up waiting until the last minute, only to cause confusion and frustration for all of those involved?

Likely if you answered YES to several of these, you’re operating from a context that there’s a ‘wrong decision’.

Which creates massive fear in your decision-making process.

Which results in feeling flustered, anxious, and overwhelmed.

I know, because for years I struggled with making decisions and it got in the way of how I lead in my business and my home –  talk about a pet peeve of my husband!

Making decisions in a timely manner and not looking back, has elevated my leadership ten-fold in ALL areas of my life, and created a sense of calm throughout my day…rather than leaking energy all over the place.

To sharpen your decision-making skills, here are a few criteria I use, regardless of how small or important the decision is:

For example: are you thinking that there’s no wrong decision, or are you thinking that one decision is better than another?

Hint: If you’re answering that there’s a wrong decision, please ask yourself, “How do you know?”


Notice your thoughts. Do you have thoughts that are competing with choosing the decision that stretches you? Does that thought support growth or keeping you small?

Being a sharpshooter when it comes to decision-making is incredibly important if you’re committed to your leadership. Which is why I’m coaching around this in my upcoming group leadership program The Circuit Board. I have a hunch that you want to experience more growth, which means more of life on your edge that incorporates YOUR needs.

 So when you go forth today, what decisions can you make that will help you grow?! Because those decisions will, in turn, ultimately give you more of what you want. 

Believing in you,

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How do you do Endings?

Today’s leadership kick: Your Leadership In Endings

Have you thought of it that way?! 🤔⁠⁠
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Do you linger until you’re the last one there?⁠⁠
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Do you do an Irish exist?⁠⁠
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Do you start to withdraw near the end and move on to the next thing?⁠⁠
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Do you promise to keep in touch but then never do?⁠⁠
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Do you walk down memory lane during the end?⁠⁠
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Do you get a pit in your stomach and feel lonely?⁠⁠
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It’s not that there’s a wrong way or a right way when it comes to endings, but I do believe it’s an opportunity to get complete with whatever is coming to an end. To say what you need to say, so that when you put your head on your pillow at night you have zero regrets. ⁠⁠
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Because endings can be painful. It can be tempting to skip right over them and not let yourself feel all the feels. If you choose to lead that way, you risk skipping over gold that’s available to you.

 

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