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WORKSHOP ANNOUNCEMENT!

 

I’m thrilled to announce the launch of my 2022 virtual leadership workshop, TIDAL. This only happens once a year and I love, love, love this event (that’s a lot a love).

For 3 powerful hours participate in Tidal 2022 to learn how to harness your leadership power and walk away with a refined relationship to the term ‘leadership’ (hint: it’s not as corporate and boring as you might think, it’s about your POWER in every moment).

” Yes, You can harness your power. ”
-SG


 

IF YOU’RE LOOKING TO…

REDEFINE YOUR relationship to ‘leadership’

Find out how you get in your OWN WAY.

Identify where you’re WANTING VS CHOOSING

Walk away with a clear understanding of your TRUE GOALS

TIDAL 2022 is for YOU.


 

– What You Need To Know –

WHEN
September 17th, 2022  | 9 AM – 12 PM PST

WHERE
In the Zoom Room

COST
Early bird $175 if registering before August 10th!
($195 after August 10th)

RECEIVE
3-hr coaching workshop, digital workbook, + digital swag.

 

REGISTER FOR TIDAL 2022 NOW

 

This work is for EVERYONE, and I truly mean that when I say it. My goal is to assist in helping you create MORE of what you want by sharing your most powerful self, and this workshop will ignite inspired action in you.

I can’t wait for this one… all we need is YOU.

 

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Are you leading from your core VALUES?

We’re constantly moving into new seasons, albeit another birthday, children growing up, new job…

All of these can quickly cause busyness, overwhelm and as humans, our knee-jerk reaction is to cut stuff out. Only I see it all the time with my driven clients, the stuff that gets cut is the stuff that feeds their spirit. That fosters the most creative ideas and problem-solving.

I was reminded of this over the weekend, as I help run a Guild for Seattle Children’s Hospital with Mateo Messina, a dear friend and award-winning composer. This was our 23rd concert, and when I got involved over 16 years ago, neither Mateo or I had partners, children or mortgages. We both lived in Seattle and had all the time in the world to gather our group of volunteers and meet regularly in person.  Looking back, life seemed so simple, all though I remember feeling like we both had a lot going on. Ha! Little did we know.

Fast forward to this year, after taking two years off for the pandemic, with the help of our small, but mighty group of volunteers, we put on another symphony concert to raise money for Seattle Children’s Hospital.  Many of these volunteers live similar lives to Mateo and I, and also live outside of Seattle, Washington. It would have been so easy for any one of us to quit and focus on other priorities.

 

And yet, we didn’t. One might wonder where Mateo finds time to write a new symphony each year, let alone practice it, and I certainly get asked how I find time to host meetings regularly and keep the trains running on time w/ in the Guild.  There’s no magic answer, other than we commit and recommit. This year I brought all my boys up to see it, since only Felix had experienced it in the past. I loved having them there to experience this part of my life AND, you can imagine, it created additional responsibilities, especially since John, my husband, was in Germany all week for work. This is where we have to let go of perfection, and roll with the punches.


The answer is quite simple.

I’m crystal clear on my values and am very intentional about living and leading from them. 3 of my values are connection, experience and impact. In this example, the relationships I I have with the other volunteers are really special, and this fundraising event is nothing like any other experience I’ve had – I get goosebumps (the good kind) every time I hear one of Mateo’s concerts.

To know we’ve raised over $1M for Seattle Children’s Hospital over the years, blows my mind.

It requires discipline and re-commitment to lead and live from your values, but I promise you, the more you embody it, the more fulfilled you will be. The more ALIVE you will feel.

Need help identifying your values? I get it. Email me at Sarah@sarahgibbons.co and I’ll send you my values guide.

 

Love,

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Administering CPR to your Creativity

For all my people who live by checklists, and go through the day trying to ‘get it all done in EVERY area of your life, this is for you.

From one driven leader to another, going about your day that way can feel really dang good in the moment, *but* it can leave you feeling burned out and even worse – UNINSPIRED

When I feel uninspired, nothing works – I’m disconnected from my work, my family, and myself. Ugg.

So what can you do?!!?

Last week I spent the week at Camp Cultivate, which is an annual retreat that takes place in Dripping Springs Texas and is the brainchild of my amazing friend and life coach Allison Crow.
When we walked into the gorgeous room where we were going to be for the 4 days, she had a set of paints on every woman’s seat (50) and colored pens.

Throughout the whole week, I found myself picking up the paints to draw metaphors for what I wanted to remember. Each day went on, I found myself settling more into my body and less in my head. New ideas were coming to me and I started to experience even more ease around my business and what’s next for the back half of 2022.

I know you might be thinking there’s nothing new about this idea of using color markers and paints, but here’s what I know about myself and my community!
We often don’t, because we’re so busy, the idea of anything that could slow down productivity gets an eye roll.

If you want to experience more of your creative brilliance, I’m telling you, get your paints and pens out and carry them everywhere.

Do NOT underestimate what happens when the little child in you gets to draw.

To BE inspired and commit to leading from your heart, THIS is one brilliant way that will crack it open.

So this week I’ll ask…

If you were feeling more inspired today, what would you put your energy toward that would have you feeling more alive than ever?

Commit to taming your busy and reignite your creativity,

 

Much Love,

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How to be a Fun Killer

THIS WEEKS LEADERSHIP INSIGHT
CALL YOURSELF OUT.

 

Are you going a mile a minute with back-to-back meetings, work, children, personal projects, while thinking about what you’re cooking for dinner and getting “organized” for the holidays?

You’re left feeling exhausted, overwhelmed and even bored from the groundhog’s day feeling that can arise when we push ourselves in overdrive.

I mean, seriously, where is the F-U-N

It can be easy to think that this chaotic schedule is happening to you (been there).


It’s Exercise Time

Instead of killing the fun, here’s an exercise that I give my clients that are in this de-fun spiral.

Make a list of 10 ways in which you squash fun.

Writing them down will require you to stare at how YOU are contributing to feeling overwhelmed. It can be confronting. And then choose one or two things from your list (to start) where you can show up differently in your leadership.

Here’s an example of a list I started a few years ago.

How I Squash Fun in my Daily life

  1. Being busy every moment of the day
  2. When I have a win, I ignore it and immediately focus on the next big opportunity
  3. I tend to overextend myself in every area of my life.
  4. I stay up late responding to emails. This means not being able to get up early and work out because I’m too tired.
  5. I delay making decisions because something better may come along.
  6. I do the easy stuff first. Which is often the mundane stuff and doesn’t inspire me at all.
  7. I say yes to client requests no matter what.
  8. I use fun as a ‘reward’. (Ex: I get to watch that movie once I’ve cleaned up the house)
  9. I compare myself/my life/my kids to other people’s lives/kids.
  10. I often over-effort/overthink.

As one of my mentors says, “this issue isn’t the issue, the issue is how you relate to the issue.”

As you move through your day, your busy week, and get ready for the holidays, I encourage you to come up with your own list of “10 ways I squash fun.”

Then stare that list in the face and see where you can show up in leadership. Can you stand in trust and not worry that that client will leave you if you say no and maintain a boundary? Can you stand in fun and choose the fun thing before the reward?

We’re here for a nanosecond and laughing and enjoying life is what it’s all about.

XX,

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Are you too busy to accept an opportunity?

THIS WEEKS LEADERSHIP INSIGHT

If you’re too busy to say yes to something you really want, are you willing to lead from a different quality in order to create it?

Almost all of my clients, and myself included, have a bias for action. We like to plow through things and get it done. That also tends to mean that are schedules are packed. Sound familiar?

Part 2 to that, those packed, productive days can also mean that when opportunities we really really want come up (professional, creative, personal, fun) we don’t know what to do.


We freeze, and often turn them down completely. Also sound familiar?
Case in Point: I was at a wedding a few weeks ago and one of my clients spontaneously invited me to the 3% Conference in Atlanta in two weeks.

I didn’t tell her this, but I’m telling you. My initial thought…. “Is she crazy? That would mean rescheduling nearly 15 client meetings across three days. And the boys… what about the boys, the homework, the cooking, and and and…”

…. Clearly, that came from fear.

Then I thought….” is she being serious?”
All the while I could feel a burst of positive energy and excitement course through my body.

Experience and impact are two values I live by, and the 3% Conference is something I’ve wanted to participate in for years. In a nutshell it’s a very established movement in the creative world that believes (as do I) that more women & more diversity = MORE creativity  + more profitability.


Without speaking to my team, my husband, my kids, I blurted, “HELL YES.”
I let go of how I would make it all work and I chose to lead from trust.I get it, I really do. Leadership happens in the moment. Busy bees like us can get such tunnel vision and addicted to the high of planning and completing things, that we deny ourselves the joy of living in the moment.
But there’s another way to lead.

So this week in your leadership…

Can you identify what you’re craving, and then identify what QUALITY you need to lead from to experience that desire.

I chose trust. My team, my family, my own ability. To communicate changes and decide what things can be pushed back or let go. And I know you can choose a different quality to lead from too.

 

Stay tuned as I share my key takeaways and leadership growth from the 3% Conference this week (follow me on socials if you don’t already)!

I’m so glad we’re in this together learning and growing,

XX,

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Preparing for something important?

Today’s leadership kick: Before that big event or meeting, take the time to create a vision for how you want to experience it. Then let that vision guide the choices you make.

This Friday I’ll be heading to Zion National Park with a group of incredibly driven, open-hearted, growth-minded women who have been part of my group coaching program over the last 9 months.

These are driven women who wear many different hats.  They are committed to growing their own leadership while at the same time being a stand for one another in a very honest, transparent and open-hearted way. It’s required a big investment of time, money, and energy. So now we’re off to do the work in-person in the midst of magical Zion.

For me, there was a time leading up to big meetings and events where the week prior would feel chaotic. I’d have an endless list of things to do, and quite frankly, wasn’t a whole lot of fun to be around because of how much pressure I’d put on myself. The big meeting/event would ultimately go well but the experience leading up was so far from what I wanted and I simply put I didn’t know any other way to BE.

How do you show up prior to an important work event?
  • Do you jam-pack your schedule?
  • Over-prepare to the point where you’re staying up late and then feel rubbish the next morning?
  • Do you become snippy with people around you?
  • Do you question if you know enough?
  • Do you obsess over all the details?
  • Do you feel a huge sense of relief when you actually get on the other side of the event?

If any of the above resonates with you, I so get it. I’ve realized through my own growth that the experience leading up to the event/meeting is equally important to me.

In fact, I often find it’s more enjoyable or equal to the event itself.  As I go into the final week leading up to this retreat now, I still feel a variety of emotions: excitement, jitters, a bit of anxiousness – but above all I feel calm and grounded.

That question will draw you into the present moment, and from there you can choose to course correct and lead from such qualities like curiosity, vulnerability, grace, etc.. And as a bonus, here’s a pro-tip.

Regardless of how big the event or meeting is, take time to create a vision for how you want to experience it. This will give altitude while also connecting you to the experience, instead of focusing on the end result. Length of your vision doesn’t matter, so don’t get caught up! Write your vision in the present tense and remember, it’s this vision or something even better for your highest good.

Then let that vision guide the choices you make.

For example: I’ve cleared my evenings this week, so I have space to relax and rest. I’ve also let colleagues know that I’ll be less available this week. Not so I can fill that time but so I can create space. That space is what allows me to lead with a wide-open heart. This is the key to being an impactful and effective leader.

I’ll be sharing more about Zion as I have insights and learnings for you all, but in the meantime, slow your roll if you want to experience the gold that’s available to you in those BIG moments.

I believe in you,

XX,

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Hustle vs. Intentionality

Today’s leadership kick: If you’re stuck in the hustle, It’s time to look at your leadership

How much do you think you need to “hustle” to get that promotion, to get that client, to get your new biz idea off the ground?

For fun, I googled the word “hustle”, and found myself getting irritated with how much visibility this word has been given in things like published books and podcasts.

It’s odd to me. Hustle means a variety of things but at the heart of it there’s a central theme of “do whatever it takes to make it happen” which often involves a lot of comparison, throwing spaghetti at the wall to see what sticks, ignoring boundaries until you’re flat-out exhausted and overwhelmed.

Why on earth are we encouraging people to HUSTLE? I was coaching a group of top music managers this week and the LAST THING they want to experience is hustle.

What they DO want is to be more effective , more impactful while feeling more like themselves . Not the overworked, anxious, running a mile a minute version of themselves.

 


I can soooo relate. It wasn’t until I had my 3rd child and was completely outnumbered that I realized it wasn’t hustle that was going to grow my business to the vision I had. Instead, I needed to get super intentional. Daily. Hourly and sometimes minute by minute.
Being intentional requires you to be choosy about your goals, what you put your attention on and take action that aligns with what matters to you. Not what you think you ‘should’ be doing.
What I notice even more these days is that being intentional feels calm but committed. It’s not that there aren’t moments that can feel ‘hard’ at times, but the ‘hard’ is more like challenged instead of ferociously exuding energy in exchange for feeling ‘productive.

I’ve also noticed that when I, and my clients, show up intentionally, the feeling of ‘rush’ fades away. It’s so much more enjoyable and fun.

If you want different results, show up differently.

SO IN YOUR LEADERSHIP THIS WEEK….

Notice if you’re hustling and ask yourself how that’s going for you. Are you feeling not enough, exhausted, and overwhelmed? Instead, how could you BE more intentional about creating what you want?

Here’s to having some FUN this week,

XX,

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I Had An Epiphany On My Date Night…

I’ve missed you. I’ve been a little MIA these past couple of weeks. I don’t want to bore you with details, but I will sum it up as: LIFE happened. Things got moving fast, and I couldn’t slow down.  Maybe you can relate. It wasn’t until I went on my date night with John last night that it hit me.

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My Simple Trick For Making Things Happen in 2017

Now what? You’ve declared how you want to feel or what you want, and might have even gone as far as setting a goal, but have you noticed how quickly life gets in the way? Suddenly, that thing you were going to change gets shoved to the side, and before you know it, 2017 is starting to look a lot like 2016.

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How strong is your sisterhood?

This past Saturday, I experienced millions of sisters and (and brothers) coming together in friendship, laughter, solidarity, and support. All around me, I witnessed mother/daughter combinations, friendships that looked like they dated back to before the arms march in the 60’s, as well as new friendships that signaled the beginning of something special.

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What Happens When You Feel Seen and Heard?

Have you ever had the experience of really feeling seen and heard by another person? When someone just receives you without agenda or judgment, but instead, with compassion and acceptance. So much so that you feel comfortable enough talking to the point where you are tripping over your words because you can’t get them out fast enough?

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Here’s how you can experience ALL of who you are

I love the start of the school year. Seeing familiar faces that we haven’t seen in a while, renewed energy amongst both the children and the parents, and a curiosity about what the year will bring. I even take comfort in the anxiety that creeps in as I watch my boys find out which teachers they received and hunting to see if their friends got in the same class.

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Craving More Freedom?

In nearly every conversation I have throughout the day, I hear the word freedom. I hear it referenced by my working Mom clients, stay-at-home Moms, and young professionals – everyone wants to experience more freedom.

This weekend, I mustered up the strength to visit our storage unit with all three boys in tow and found myself on a mission. In the past I would hem and haw over each item. But, not this time. I had a ‘take no prisoners’ attitude and loaded up our car with things that have been collecting dust since we returned from London 6 years ago. It became clear to me that I want to feel lighter and, by doing away with these last few items from a European move, I can do that.

Where are you craving freedom?

Freedom to express what’s on your mind and in your heart?

Freedom from overwhelm, anxiety, and sacrifice?

Freedom to experience something new?

Freedom to do what you love and get paid for it?

Freedom to change your mind?

Freedom to be spontaneous?

Freedom to do nothing!

If freedom and a life you love from the inside out is what you’re after, then the best place to start is your mindset. It’s so refreshing to know that you don’t have to be a victim of your circumstances any longer and can chose how you relate to each situation you’re in. The freedom will come in knowing you have a choice in every moment you experience.

Grab the same juicy 2-step process I use with CWM clients to experience as much freedom you’re able to receive:

What are your core values? It’s super important to pick words and phrases that you feel connected to. Do not pick words that you think you need to have on your list. Try and narrow down to five.
Display these values in front of you daily and, each time you make a decision, run them through your values. You want to discover if that choice supports your governing philosophy and how you want to experience your life OR if it constricts you.

What’s fascinating to me is that corporations do this religiously, yet as individuals I find most of us waffle when it comes to sharing our top five values. It’s no surprise that we feel out of alignment, compromised, overwhelmed, unexpressed, under-utilized, and exhausted because we’re not acting in our truth.

It’s time to start living the best version of you. I’m nudging you a bit to try this on because what’s on the other side is happiness. Calmness. Intimacy. Fulfillment. Inspiration. Love. Aliveness.

Much Love,

Inspire Your Inner Adventurer

Everytime I sit down to write about this experience, I get a bit giddy inside. There are two things I LOVE in life: surprises and adventure. Why? Because it ignites the feeling of wonder, play and aliveness inside of me. It takes the days that can start to feel very routine, mundane and dare I say groundhog like and put them on their head.

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How to pursue your goals AND relish the experience

Do you ever struggle being fully present with what you are doing in this moment? Perhaps occupied with a project at work when you are actually spending time with your children? Or maybe worrying about your child’s report card while taking a shower? And I’m not even going to say the word “Facebook.”

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The Difference Between Happening FOR You & TO You

The other day I was caught up with getting ready for a school holiday, prepping for a trip, packing up my family, and all that goes into taking a break from my practice. I was buzzing around, tying up loose ends, when my middle son looked up and said, “Look mom, the trees are dancing. They’re trying to delight me.”

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What I Love About Being a Mom

In a recent conversation that felt more like a major blow up with my oldest son, he asked me, “Do you like being a Mom?” Initially, the voice in my head had quite a sarcastic response, but my heart immediately felt a heavy sigh. “Of course I do.” It was that moment when I realized {again} that this whole thing called Motherhood is pretty mind-blowing. Full stop.

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3 Signs You’re Living A Conscious Life

Do you feel purposeful in your life? Excited by the legacy that you’re going to leave? For me, there was a time, when I use to feel a sense of, “what am I going to be remembered for?” because of my lack of fulfillment. Not anymore.

Do you genuinely feel a sense of joy about who you are, what you stand for, and how you show up for yourself? I know we’re human, but generally speaking, do you feel alive and able to receive pleasure on all levels?

Do you like who you are and give yourself permission to speak up, share and express yourself with others?

If you answered YES to any of these questions, then congrats! You are on your way to experiencing life consciously. However, if you experiencing a few NO’s, here are some tools for you:

1.Craving Purpose? It’s time to get clear on how you want to FEEL, before you can decide on what you want!

ACTION STEP: What does purpose feel like to you? Describe all the feelings that come up for you. Don’t limit yourself. Get crystal clear on all the feelings, qualities, and values that you require to experience in order to feel purpose. This will become your template to build upon in designing what it is you want to DO.

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2. Ready for more Joy? Begin by opening up all your senses to receive more joy.

ACTION STEP:  Listen to music that fires you up, hug your partner or children 5 seconds longer than normal, go for a 5 minute walk everyday and immerse yourself in the outdoors, use spices on your food (cinnamon is a great one), flowers in your house to smell, and I highly suggest taking the time to spread lotion on your body after the shower. This allows you to connect with yourself.

3. Want to deepen your self-love and self-trust? What’s something you desire more of in your life, but are holding back and not speaking up around?

ACTION STEP: Give yourself permission to be honest first with yourself about what it is you desire. Secondly, share it with one person close to you. You will be amazed at the freedom you feel by sharing it with someone close and the increased connection you will feel with yourself.

As women living at the intersection of ambition and authenticity, we have a choice as to  whether we want to experience life consciously. These 3 steps help me experience meaning and joy, all while learning to like myself all over again after I took on the role of motherhood.

Here’s to living authentically and consciously,

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What If My Idea of Success Starts With Being Instead of Doing More?

Sticky-NotesHi Working Moms,
I wanna know what’s a typical day like for you and how do you experience joy  and success amongst the demands of motherhood and your career? When do your start, and when does it end? Regardless of whether you run your own business, go into a corporate office, or have flex hours, there’s often a feeling of wanting to accomplish as much as possible in order to feel successful, which we expect to produce happiness.

Most working Moms are very busy getting as much done as they possibly can during their awake state.

Here’s a typical day of one of my dear, working Mom friends.

Typical Day:

  • 4:45 – 6am: get up and work for an hour
  • 6 – 7am: hit the early morning workout class
  • 7 – 7:30: get kids started (dressed, breakfast etc.) before nanny arrives at 7:30
  • 7:30 – 8:30: shower and get out the door
  • 8:30 -9:30: sit in traffic
  • 9:30 – 6pm: work
  • 6 – 7pm:  Networking related work event 2x a week or  meeting for volunteer organization 1x a week
  • 7:30 – 8:30: get home, check homework, make dinner, make lunches for next day, figure out children’s needs for following day, and add to the never-ending to-do list for the weekend
  • 8:30 – 9: get kids down for the night (teeth, stories etc.)
  • 9 – 10:30: work/ read
  • 10:30 – 11pm: talk to my husband and go to bed!

My hunch is that you have your own variation of this schedule; every minute feels accounted for. Do you find that you consistently try to cram one more thing in pursuit of what feels like success to you? Or happiness? Note, what works for one of you, could absolutely not work for other other.

We all can agree that there’s a general pressure for all of us to do more in order to be successful and feel happy. For Working Moms, it’s not about doing more, it’s about being more. This is a huge paradigm shift compared to the way the corporate world has traditionally encouraged us to operate: work first, be second. Meaning, if you succeed in work, you will then be happy and traditionally speaking, society focuses on what you should accomplish, instead of who you are as a person.

In a nutshell, I’ve discovered if I really want to feel like a success and experience loads of happiness and fulfillment, I have to let my ‘being’ inform my ‘doing,’ not the other way around (cramming one more thing into my schedule or multi-tasking, resulting in exhaustion and resentment).

 Here are 4 simple tips to help you experience success and joy through letting your Being influence you Doing:

  1. Check-in with yourself. Are you experiencing exactly how you want to feel each day? Fulfillment? Inspiration?  If not, follow steps #2 – #4
  2. Give yourself permission to live in the flow and flexibility of life, instead of controlling every minute of your day. By embracing flexibility, you will strengthen your ability to reside in your being vs. doing.
  3. Ask yourself each morning morning, what is the one thing you can do each day to support the way you want to feel (answer to #1). Make that your main priority for the day.
  4.  Practicing self-compassion when you veer from your schedule. The goal is to enjoy life and “be” in it vs. watching from the sidelines while you try and “do” more.

Being a working Mom can feel grueling. It can also feel incredibly rewarding and inspiring as we model who we are and exhibit our gifts for our children.

If you can relate to the working Mom who’s still trying to do just one more thing each day, so that she can feel like a success, then I’d love to talk with you. I’ve been there and I’ve also burned out from it.  I’ve helped women replace the pattern of doing more with strengthening their being, so that they can experience success defined by a living a full life with grace, joy and with plenty of abundance.

Let your being inform your doing. It’s through this lens that you will experience a lot more joy and the kind of success I think we all want. Not to mention new opportunities will come to you because of your new ability to not only see and receive them. This can come in the form of a promotion, a child, or finding your soulmate.  Try these tips and let me know how you define success in my comments section. I’d love to hear from you! Remember, there’s no ‘set schedule,’ to define success,  it’s really does come down to what feels right for you, so listen to your intuition and course correct if need be.

Much love,

Sarah xx

Summers coming….as a Working Mom are you ready?

WFHSummer is one quarter away and are you starting to get hit with questions like, “What are your summer plans?”, “Which summer camps are you signing up for?”, “Have you figured out which days you’re going to take off for the summer?”

Have you started to receive emails about camp deals and heard chatter from other parents as they frantically start to sort out their summer plans?

In my world, I can say yes to all of the above! I also have a small confession: Until recently, I use to dread summer holidays. Here’s why: Summer would arrive, school was out, and I couldn’t be home with my children! The initial thought went against all of my visions of being a Mom and experiencing summer’s with my children. Interestingly, when I got really honest with myself, I wasn’t sure if I could handle being home all day with my highly energetic crew and the exceptional amount of patience that it requires. However, I also was operating under the misbelief, that if I wasn’t home with my children during the summer, that none of us would experience an idyllic holiday. I have vivid memories of long summer days at home with my school teacher Mom, playdates with friends, berry picking, riding bikes, week long holidays at my grandparents, long car trips to visit my cousins, and many days where I had enough time to get bored and lounge around in the hot sun. I did attend the most wonderful summer camp, but it was over a condensed amount of time, so I was at home with my family the majority of the break. Oh, the memories. Fast forward to the life of a working Mom, and I simply couldn’t imagine creating the type of summer experiences for myself or for my children because of my full-time work schedule. I also fell into the comparison trap, believing that stay at home Moms were having a lot more fun come summer time and that their kids were too because their Moms were at home.

Can you relate to any of this? I have to tell you, three boys later, I have done a 180 turn, and it feels incredibly liberating and refreshing. I’ve grown to love summers and, instead of feeling stressed, anxious, and anticipating disappointment, I feel excited about the upcoming season and all the new experiences in store for both my kids and me. Here are my 5 tips from moving from summer blues to summer bliss:

1. Update any misbeliefs around being a working Mom – assure yourself that you and your children can experience your summers just as you imagine!

2. Allow yourself to imagine your IDEAL summer experiences – set aside 30 minutes and write down all the difference experiences you’d like to have during the summer for both you and your children. Think about your senses. How do you want to feel, what do you want to see, taste, and touch? Get a big piece of paper and write out those experiences. Remember, experiences don’t have to require money. It can be spending an evening with your family taking a walk once a week.

3. Gather all your facts – if children are old enough to have opinions – ask them what they’re most looking forward to experiencing this upcoming summer. Ask your partner. Gather info on trips you want to take and summer camps you want your children to experience. Any and all information around experiences you desire.

4. Get tactical – Do you have a budget for your summer holiday. If so, review it.

5. Make decisions & move on – As you start to make decisions, cross reference each opportunity (experience) with your ideal scene of how you want to the experience summer. If an experience feels like a fit, then go for it. If you feel resistance, set it aside. Don’t fight it.

6. Engage a village – as a working Mom, take pride in setting up a village that can support you in making your life easier during the summer – carpools, play dates, etc.

There you have six, important tips to help you ease into the summer season with grace, ease, and organization, so you can experience just the way you want it. This exercise wholeheartedly supports you in in making self-honoring choices and leveraging a village, two very important themes that make up the Conscious Working Mama Wheel.

Don’t forget to revisit your self assessment, so you can check in with yourself around your own level of consciousness and look for areas of opportunity.

Much Love,

Sarah xx

Are You Focused on YOU having fun, Or Your Kids? Be Honest…

DSC07295 copyI hear from so many working Moms that their daily routines can feel mundane and lack fun. For me, I use to try and DO more to create ‘fun’ for my kids. Only, the more I did, the less FUN I felt. My funneth, runneth empty.

Until recently, I was experiencing Groundhog Day at the breakfast table. We were going through the motions, and it just lacked fun. It lacked light-heartedness. I experimented with something to switch it up; make the routine feel fresh while hitting all of the marks we needed to hit each morning to get everyone out of the door on time.

Here’s a strategy, my modern, working moms who aspire to raise your consciousness and experience more fun during routine moments that can otherwise feel mundane.

1. Take a deep breathe; the kind that allows you to exhale out loud. Let your body completely relax (this should take 3 seconds max!)
2. What is it you NEED in order to experience fun, laughter, lightness, and silliness? This is a state of being, not something that should require you to DO more.
3. Welcome whatever comes forward. For me, the the first thing that came to mind was ‘dance party.’

I went with it! I put on music for my boys and, while they sat at the breakfast table, I danced. And, danced. And, danced. I did this as I made lunches and wiped up the seemingly never-ending spills. They sat with their jaws open, all the while, giggling in unison. They had no idea that their Mama had grown up dancing tap, ballet, and jazz. I could (can!) drop into numerous routines at any given moment.

All of the sudden, our morning breakfast routine, was full of energy, light, and FUN. An internal shift happened inside of me. I was open to receiving more fun in my life and, as a result, so were my boys. They enjoyed an otherwise routine breakfast morning in a new way; a fresh and fun way. I could have kept dancing all morning and, in a way, I did. So did they.

I was reminded that it’s necessary for us working women to infuse joy in our lives, and that it’s really a state of being, not a state of doing more. We don’t need to work harder to create ‘lightness’ in our lives. I was able tap into my intuition (ha! see what I did there?). By being open to receiving what need came through and embracing it, my boys and I had a lot more fun during what had become groundhogs day breakfast routine.

With loads of laughter,

Sarah