Intentionality

WORKSHOP ANNOUNCEMENT!

 

I’m thrilled to announce the launch of my 2022 virtual leadership workshop, TIDAL. This only happens once a year and I love, love, love this event (that’s a lot a love).

For 3 powerful hours participate in Tidal 2022 to learn how to harness your leadership power and walk away with a refined relationship to the term ‘leadership’ (hint: it’s not as corporate and boring as you might think, it’s about your POWER in every moment).

” Yes, You can harness your power. ”
-SG


 

IF YOU’RE LOOKING TO…

REDEFINE YOUR relationship to ‘leadership’

Find out how you get in your OWN WAY.

Identify where you’re WANTING VS CHOOSING

Walk away with a clear understanding of your TRUE GOALS

TIDAL 2022 is for YOU.


 

– What You Need To Know –

WHEN
September 17th, 2022  | 9 AM – 12 PM PST

WHERE
In the Zoom Room

COST
Early bird $175 if registering before August 10th!
($195 after August 10th)

RECEIVE
3-hr coaching workshop, digital workbook, + digital swag.

 

REGISTER FOR TIDAL 2022 NOW

 

This work is for EVERYONE, and I truly mean that when I say it. My goal is to assist in helping you create MORE of what you want by sharing your most powerful self, and this workshop will ignite inspired action in you.

I can’t wait for this one… all we need is YOU.

 

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Client Spotlight – Kirstin Reno

I’ve been working with Kristin for a few months now and she’s one of those people who could intimidate you with her achievements, but because she’s so dang nice and real, there’s an automatic sense of comfort in her presence.

Kristin is not only a vet in the Advertising world, she’s also a Mother and a wife – so plenty of responsibility on her plate and yet she’s making time for herself in service to her growth.

We all live extremely busy lives, but I just have to share some tidbits from our conversation, because I believe it will nudge you. In a good way.


SARAH: You work for 22 Squared, tell me about your favorite project you’re working.

KIRSTIN: Right now I’m focused on a few behind-the-scenes efforts to help re-architect 2023 marketing opportunities for Publix Super Markets. For decades the brand has carved a niche in customers’ hearts with emotional connections and exceptional service, but is facing broader and more intense competition than ever. Partnering with our key clients and agency leads to tackle our evolution opportunities is igniting my curiosity, possibility-based thinking, bravery, and creativity – all the things that bring me spark.

 

SARAH: How has your view on leadership shifted this past year, and what is the impact on you, your team, your family life?

KIRSTIN: I’m shifting my focus from contribution to connection – at work and at home. Not just being there, but being present. Moving from an open mind to an open heart. The last two years have ravaged our norms for simple interactions and connecting to one another. It’s palpable in the shift to WFH in which hallway conversations and physical proximity are replaced with faces in boxes in scheduled cadences, and blurring the lines of work/home balance. And the emotional strain on folks is heavy. Their hands are full of their own baggage, leaving little room for them to be a helping hand to someone else. My priority is re-igniting humanity, empathy and connection.

 

SARAH: How are you living your legacy TODAY?

KIRSTEN: My attention is on fanning the flames of “What if?” Encouraging curiosity and empowering pursuit of possibilities knowing that my best impact is creating a widespread ripple effect of power and potential in others.

” My priority is re-igniting humanity, empathy and connection.”

-KR

SARAH: How would you describe working with YOU?

KIRSTEN: My husband likes to call me a chameleon, adapting to the style and pace of the people I’m with. But you’ll pretty consistently find honesty, love for levity, and enthusiasm for a good happy hour.

 

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Client Spotlight – Kirsten Rutherford

In a world that constantly celebrates people’s productivity and output, my hope is that by giving you a peak into the HUMANS I work with, you realize that the value you bring into the world is based on WHO YOU ARE first and foremost.

Your leadership is your legacy.

How we show up in all these various ways is modeling leadership and creating your realities.

Who we are at the core is the engine and the foundation behind the impact we make in the world.

When Kristen Rutherford walks into a room (albeit virtual or in person) one is immediately drawn to her, sun shiny, authentic disposition and her groundedness. Zero pretentiousness with this Kiwi transplant.  She’s a safe haven for her team. She’s not afraid to speak up and she’s wildly creative. She’s also the ⁠Executive Creative Director, TBWA Chiat Day, Los Angeles.

 

SARAH: How are you living your legacy TODAY?

KIRSTEN: I’ve journaled every night for the past 33 years. In the last few years since my Dad passed away, I’ve tried to change the spirit of that daily summation into one that leads only with gratitude. If I have something to write on the page, then I’m living my values which feels pretty awesome.

 

Whether that’s seeing growth in my team, or seeing them feel appreciated…that makes me feel appreciated.

I’m grateful to be able to find the intersection between my purpose and profession– whether that’s working on accounts that do good, or finding opportunities with brands to help them find their soul.

I’m also grateful that at this stage in my career, I’ve been given the trust and support to bring even more humanity to place with the words ‘Be more human’ written in 12ft letters on our outside wall.

 

 

SARAH: Tell us about the opportunity to speak at Cannes and why it’s important to you?

KIRSTEN: I’m privileged to be talking to the Cannes Young Lions Creative Academy. The Academy is a talent accelerator for the brightest young (under 30) creative talent in the world.  My session is called ‘Balancing your creativity with purpose’. We’re discussing how to intersect your values / purpose with your profession and how to use your moral compass if something doesn’t sit well with your beliefs and values.

It’s such an honor when this conversation allows me to live my own purpose: making the world a better place through kindness and creativity!

SARAH: How would you describe working with me?

KIRSTEN: I’ve been lucky enough to work with Sarah in both group workshops and personal coaching. I’m grateful for her insight- she has a glorious ability to take a step back and summarize what feels like a mountain, into a very walkable hill! Sarah holds you accountable. We all know the power of being challenge to articulate our 3ft toss and stay true to that. She’s challenging… in all the right ways!

 

A huge thank you to Kristen for taking a beat to slow down and share with me what she’s up too.

 

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It’s time you made a bigger IMPACT

I have some questions for you…

Are you wanting your team(s) to make a bigger impact?

Put out bolder creative solutions?

Attract a sexy new client?

Increase your revenue?

Grow your own leadership?

Experience way more FUN in the process?

We’re often told to swing for the fences and take the big risk, do the big ‘thing but what I notice from talking to Execs, Entrepreneurs and in my own business is it starts with taking time to do the mundane things that create consistency in all aspects of your business.

I know it’s often the things that don’t fire us up, however, getting consistent with things like reviewing talent monthly,not just annually, reviewing your financial goals and where you’re at daily, not just quarterly, and being intentional about outreach to potential clients, weekly, all contribute to a well oiled foundation.

In order to “do” the above, it requires commitment. Re-commitment. We’re all being pulled in a thousand different directions and our days can easily be experienced as distraction over distraction.

 


Here’s where I can help you so that you can make your BIG desire happen!

If you are getting distracted easily, there’s a high chance that you have energy leaks all over the place. Some of the most common ones I see in my clients are:

+ Ignoring boundaries and saying YES to everyone and everything
+ Not putting your basic needs first (rest, movement, diet, pleasure, connection)
+ Being agreeable instead of saying and doing the uncomfortable thing because you want to avoid ‘conflict’
+ Thinking life will get better when….. (fill in the blank) only nothing changes!
+ Feeling lonely because you’re at the top of your game and don’t feel like you have a community you can turn to and be super vulnerable because it wouldn’t be ‘appropriate’

If you’re nodding your head AND your willing to take the bull by it’s horns because YOU want more than ‘good or fine,’ than reach out. 


I’ve opened my doors to the one group program I’m running next year: ‘ The Board’. You can read all about it HERE, but what you need to know, is that I heavily curate this intimate group (10 or less) and is designed for:

👉️⁠ Men & Women who are just as excited about other people’s success as they are their own

👉️⁠ People who will not accept ‘fine or good’ and instead desire feeling deeply connected, alive, and calm while also making an even bigger impact AND increasing their revenue.

👉️⁠ People who are open-minded, kind and value integrity.
👉️⁠ People who value the experience along the way as much as traditional success.

👉️⁠ Men & women who are driven and have a track record for success.
*This is not a program for people just starting out.


You will get out of this program what you want, but most importantly you’ll transform your ability to create your life from your soul and your giant heart, rather than your head. Imagine all the self-trust and confidence that comes from living that way?!

Spots are filling up, so please don’t wait. Email me directly at sarah@sarahgibbons.co if you’d like to apply to be a part of the The Board 2023.

 

It’s time to bet on yourself,

 

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What I learned from Norman Lear

When it comes to hearing inspiring people talk, I’ve seen a lot of really incredible people over the years. Truth be told, I’ve never quite had the experience like I had last week.

My dear friends, founders of Creative Visions, Amy and Kathy Eldon, set up an intimate conversation between John Turtletaub and Norman Lear.

Norman Lear is known for his story-telling talents as a Screenwriter, film and television Producer (responsible for shows like Allin the Family, The Jeffersons, Good Times, The Facts of Life….and so so so much more) and his ability to impact equality through the arts.

But what I love about this man is who he embodies as a human being. And I’m confident after experiencing him, it’s the reason he just celebrated his 100th Birthday. Ya’ll, he walked out on stage!!

I can’t even begin to describe the surge of energy, laughter, truth and heart-felt connection I felt throughout my whole body as he answered each question ever so presently and candidly. I walked away so grateful for this experience because it gave me confirmation on what I’ve suspected all along

*BEING NICE* is a key ingredient to success and living a healthy long life despite most of the world dismissing this quality. 

 


The word *nice* I find gets overlooked.

It’s the quality that I worry feels too light, maybe even weak, and not special enough. Yet, I often find myself in conversations w/ my husband at the end of the day saying something like, ‘if we can just raise nice boys’ I’ll feel like I’ve fulfilled my motherly duties.

As Norman put it, *nice* is the quality that slows us down. Right there, is the challenge.

Who the heck wants to slow down?!  Yet, it’s the quality that has us look up from our phones, smile at a stranger, hold the door open for others, say please and thank you. It’s also the quality that, when we’re in argument with our partners, has us *think twice* about our words in an attempt to fight fairly, and not attack one’s character.

Beyond that, it’s the way of being that fosters being generous with our time, energy and money, empathetic to others situations and compassionate towards ourselves and others when we experience disappointment.
It’s the very quality that allows others to feel seen, appreciated, and acknowledged. Most importantly, connected to ourselves and others. From there, doors open. The impossible becomes possible.


Imagine a world where each of us are 5 degrees *nicer* than we currently are? What would you experience MORE of in your life?

Norman also confirmed for me that laughter, or call it fun, has to be a part of every day.  Norman’s pretty confident that the reason he hit the century mark, is that he has prioritized JOY in his life.

If there’s one theme I hear all the time from my coaching conversations, it’s “I want to experience more joy, levity and laughter.”

I observe people being resigned in one part of their life. It looks something like, “I don’t have a choice. It’s just how it is.”  If you’re craving more laughter, then take a look at your life where you feel you’re at the mercy of your circumstances. Once we get clear on where we really are, we can wake up and consider another choice.

We can never have another Norman Lear, but we can learn from everything he’s put on this Earth while he’s been here.

The lesson to show up as our most alive selves, messiness and all, to be *nice* always, and to prioritise joy. And guess what? It’s contagious.

Much love,

 

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Have things been feeling “Messy?”

I have a few questions for you,

When’s the last time you answered the question, “How’s it going?” with the real stuff, and not just, “I’m good, but busy and tired.”?

When was the last time you sat at another human’s dining room table and talked about your relationships, your work, your health, your worries, politics or your faith and really felt like you were the only one that mattered in that moment?

When’s the last time you totally let your guard down and asked for help?

When’s the last time you said NO and didn’t worry about others liking you less?

When’s the last time you felt like quitting, and someone said to you… ‘oh no you don’t.’ This is who you are and you owe it to yourself to go for it?

Hmm?…

Over the last 6 months I found myself craving a deeper sense of community, particularly around my desire to live a more soul-filling life, which means really being choosy in how I spend my energy. Still ambitious, but a more simplified, intentional version of life. I was craving spaciousness and connection that was not only deeper but had a wider range.

What I’ve realized is that we’re sold community, as if the minute you join a group you’re going to instantly feel like you’ve made best friends; you know friends who totally get you and see you.

This isn’t really the case!

Finding a community of your people is a combination of laser-sharp facilitating and showing up fully in SELF.

Even then, I find the getting-to-know-each-other phase can be a bit slow, especially if you haven’t met in person. Real community can be awkward, boring, average and, dare I say ‘just fine.’

I’ve just come off a weekend spending time in person with a community I recently joined. Thank you Allison Crow for creating Cultivate;  a group of female business owners, all craving a more soul-filling biz and life. Our group connection started with meetings over zoom and at times it felt nice, sometimes awkward, average and dare I say ‘fine.’ What I realized after spending time together in person this past weekend, is that if we want to experience the kind of community where we feel completely understood and seen, we have to fully show up.

I don’t mean fake it until you make it, I mean here are my dreams, biggest fears, things that keep me up at night, shame stories and everything in-between.

What I’ve experienced time and time again is that when I show up with all my parts, all my stories and give people my full presence, real community is created and this is what is life changing.

Each time I’ve elevated to the next level in my marriage, motherhood, or my business, it’s because of one belief I swear by. Revolutionary growth happens inside revolutionary relationships!

I can’t imagine not having a group to lean into who has my back, believes in me 100%, accepts me exactly as I am encouraging me to choose discomfort over resentment, and reminds me who I am when I forget.

Connection is the gift at the heart of community. It’s not just about depth, it’s about range.

So… how’s your relationship to communities?


I know for me the more I let go of the dream of experiencing an ‘ideal’ community and I embrace the messy, real community, which means I show up from my truest self, I experience belonging. Boom. That’s when transformation happens. When one human transforms in a group, you better believe there’s a ripple.

If this kind of community resonates with you, email me. I have something to discuss with you.

 

Much love,

 

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What’s your Achilles heel that gets in the way of you leading?

Here’s what I’m noticing this week…

We live in a world of information overload  –  right?  – and it’s easy to get sucked into thinking that the more we know, the more we’ll become better leaders. As if by simply reading or listening to ‘the best 5 tools’ will translate to new behavior.

Information doesn’t equal transformation. Just because you might have a new tool in your kit, by no means will it extinguish you humanness. Your humanness can show up in the form of your Achilles Heel. 

SO WHAT TO DO

If you really want to up your game in how you show up and lead, start by getting clear on what your Achilles Heel is. And rather than trying to banish that part of you, build a relationship with it. I’m learning loads about the IFS model, and really subscribe to the idea that all of our parts are welcome (e.g. the anxiousness, the judgment etc) and we learn to build relationships with these parts, we experience so much more confidence and self-trust.

“Build a relationship with your Achilles Heel”

Here are some of the most common ways I see my people getting in their own way of leading. In other words, their Achilles Heel:

  • Self-doubt
  • Choosing comfort over discomfort
  • Trying to get it right, which creates analysis paralysis
  • Too many priorities
  • Working on what’s urgent instead of what’s important
  • Not asking for help

Once you’ve identified it, have a conversation with that part of you and find out what it needs you to know.  Now, this can be a 2-minute conversation.


It looks something like this…

*My Achilles Heel is trying to get it right, so I might say to my ‘trying to get it right part’….

SG: Trying to Get it Right – I see you. What do you want me to know?”

Trying to Get it Right: “I’m worried that if you get it wrong, you’ll feel stupid.”

SG: “I see you wanting to protect me. Thank you for that, AND, just because I might not get something right, doesn’t mean I’m stupid. I can always course correct. I’m committed to putting myself out there instead of playing it safe. I’m going to need you to step to the side while I be brave.”

Each time I talk TO the part that’s feeling triggered and trying to get my attention, I feel myself re-centered and ready to rock.

These parts of us that get in the way of us showing up and being who we’re meant to be, don’t have to derail us. They can actually help us. 

If you try this exercise on, let me know how it goes. This is something you can do on the fly and be a quick exercise, but hugely profound.  We owe it to ourselves first and foremost to show up as the brightest and fullest version of ourselves.

 

Much love,

 

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Stop wanting… and do THIS instead.

I have a bee in my bonnet about all the talk I hear in the self-help world as it relates to wanting and manifesting desires, because it’s simply not enough to ‘want.’

I think back to when I was desiring a career that invigorated me, while making a positive impact on humanity and still paid me good $$.  The years were passing by and I felt stagnant and underwhelmed.

It simply wasn’t enough for me too ‘want to do something different.’  I had desires, but I wasn’t doing anything about it.

Even with the most colorful & inspiring vision board in my office, *nothing* and I mean *nothing* was happening.

It wasn’t until an Executive coach I was working with at the time suggested I consider checking out a grad school program for Spiritual Psychology and I consciously chose to go the open house.

It was the act of *choosing* that changed my life forever.

 

After attending the open house, I chose to have a convo w/ John about applying for the two year program.

From there, I chose to apply and got accepted.

If someone had told me 10 years later I’d be running a massive 6 figure coaching business spending time with people who inspire me, I’m not sure I would have believed them. I didn’t have a detailed business plan, but I did have the inner knowledge to keep choosing what I wanted.

– Choosing vs. Wanting. There’s no competition. –

 

If you’re wanting something to be different in your life, it begins with your leadership and choosing is one way you can harness your power.

I’ll be diving more into choosing vs wanting at TIDAL.

In case you missed the announcement last week, I’ll be hosting my TIDAL workshop on Sept. 17th from 9am PT- Noon PT and the theme this year is “Learn how to Harness Your Leadership Power.”

You’ll walk away with a refined relationship to the term ‘leadership’ and clear next steps (Hint: it’s not as corporate and boring as you might think, it’s about your POWER in every moment).

 

I believe in connection and community as key ingredients to stepping more fully into your life, so everything about Tidal is designed in such a way that you experience self-connection and belonging.

Now more than ever I see ALL of us craving connection.

Grab your ticket HERE. For all my introverts, don’t worry. I got you. You’ll be held in the brave container we co-create together.

 

Much love,

 

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Money Money Money…

Money is on my mind this week as I filled up my car this weekend and $100 didn’t even fill my tank. Not to mention all this talk about a recession. Seriously?! There’s a massive sense of unknown right now, and I’m noticing how it’s bringing up my client’s money stuff (me included) and it’s nerve-wracking.

All relationships are important in life, but our relationship to the money I find is one of the most important because if we get careless with it, you’ll find yourself living anxiously and full of doubt. Our monkey minds can take over in a heartbeat.

Money comes and goes, but how we relate to it on a daily basis is our leadership being called forward. What’s even more important is the energy behind our relationship to money, which is an area I’m constantly revisiting. It’s like a garden. You have to keep checking in on it, watering it so that your flowers continue to flourish and not dry up!

I know the topic of money can bring up so much angst for people, but in service to supporting you in this area, here are a couple of go-two habits that I’ve found wildly helpful in transforming my relationship to money.

1)

On a very regular basis, ask yourself, “What do I really want to use money for?” Being crystal clear with your answer will bolster your connection to your desire and motivate you in times of uncertainty.

2)

Get clear on where your energy leaks are around money. Make a list of outstanding debts, bills etc and revisit it weekly. You’ll be surprised at how your energy goes up when you close loops around money.

3)

Be willing to be honest and transparent on a daily basis with your relationship to money, and stop ‘wanting.’ Willing is different than wanting. When I’m on a call with a client and they’re telling me they want to make $1M, there’s no action in that statement. However, if they’re willing to look at their finances daily, if they’re willing to set tangible goals, if they’re willing to own why they want to make $1M they are stepping into action.
Btw, the number of zero’s you have in your bank account have very little to do with your relationship to money. I work with people regularly who have excessive bank accounts, and they too are taking the same actions above to ensure they are financially and energetically fit.

Speaking of $$, I want to transparently share that my team and I have been working on the next Tidal Summit for September ’22 and getting our heads around what the cost should actually be.

SAVE THE DATE! Sept 17th in the morning (details coming).

With all of this swirl around finances the coaching business can be one of the first things to cut (I see it all the time) as it can feel like an add-on, luxury item. We won’t get into that now, but I get it. So I’m working out how to ensure that Tidal Summit (virtual) is as accessible to you as possible, while still being a meaningful and tangible investment in yourself.

Here’s to strengthening our relationship to money so we can experience all the wealth we desire.

Much love,

 

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August, Already?!

Golly gee whizz, time goes fast. I’m on a two-week holiday up in the PNW, and it’s been wonderful and tiring at the same time – traveling with 4 boys. Grateful for my amazing husband. ⁠

⁠The woman in this photo is like a 2nd grandma to me, and she’s going to be turning 90 this December – which I’m always reminded after spending a week with her, age is simply a number. It all comes down to attitude. And how great is that red suit?!

I’m in rest mode, so intentionally not focused on enrolling, but my team nudged me to share what I have going on come Sept because it’s all good stuff. I know some of you are planners!!⁠

 

Things are feeling FULL steam ahead. Here are ways you can get supported by me in the very near future:

REGISTER FOR THE MOTHER BOARD NOW!

 

REGISTER FOR TIDAL 2022 NOW – $175 early bird price until August 10th!

 

Much love,

 

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We All Need a Safe Harbor

Anyone else find themselves needing space over the last couple of days to mentally, emotionally and physically recharge from ALL that is going on in the world?!

I spent time with John and our oldest son (littles are still away at sleepaway camp) doing a whole lot of nothing and I LOVED IT. I found myself shying away from big groups and wanting to hang with my family, where I know they have my back no matter what.

It really got me thinking about how much as humans we crave a safe harbor. A place we can pull into at any time and dock.  Even if we’re in rough waters there’s a sense that we can feel buoyed in the midst of the unstableness.

Now more than ever are you finding that you crave a sense of belonging?

Those people that totally get you?! The kind of relationships that when you share, you instinctively feel like you’re the only person that matters to them in that moment?

Those people that have the guts to tell you the truth (from a place of love) because they’re more committed to seeing you fully BE even if ruffles you a bit, vs. saying the thing that keeps you comfortable?

For me, I have my husband, but I also have a group I’ve invested in that has become my safe harbor.  It’s been a place for me to nurture my heart while also getting honest support around being a business owner, a mother, and a wife.

Sometimes we *think* we have a safe harbor, but we come to realize it lacks depth – SG

 

Are you desiring a greater sense of belonging, where you not only feel totally seen, but you can receive honest and open feedback on actions you’re taking to move your goals (personal and work) forward?

If you are, we should talk. You can email me at Sarah@sarahgibbons.co. For my working Mothers, I have an immediate opportunity for you to consider. I’ll be going live about  The Mother Board tomorrow at 8am PST.

Tune in via my LinkedIn OR on my Facebook Page.

Much love,

 

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I’m creating a space of belonging

You’ve probably heard or seen me talk about my program, The Mother Board, yes??

We’ll I’m circling back – because the next group for 2022 is starting this fall and you need to know more about this now.

Also – something happened last week that struck me about this program and the women who participated in 2021 – and I had a big moment of pride. Of joy. Of warmth.

 

“Transformation gets created, and these women experience a true sense of belonging well beyond the program.
We working moms owe it to ourselves to get supported.  Our deepest desires matter. We’re not here just to support others. I know my working Moms know that.”

 

I notice how easily it is for women to bond over what’s not working in their life, and while that might feel good in the moment, it certainly doesn’t foster long-term change. If anything, it fosters more resentment, frustration and overwhelm.

I love this program so much because these women not only redefine what leadership means, they finally get the support they’re worthy of from other working Moms who get them. From there, I witness the Mother Board members truly be the author of their lives and lean into their deepest *desires*  despite the circumstances around them (not enough time in the day, a partner who doesn’t carry their weight, lack of energy, money etc).

“One of the greatest gifts I see women experience in this program is the ‘ongoing’ support after the program completes.”

If you’re a working Mom, or know one, please consider this my invitation to invest in yourself. Doors will close Aug. 1st and I want you to experience the gift of not only having myself be a stand for you, but also other women who will believe in you like you’ve never felt before – all from a place of compassion.

 

So much love,

 

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Are you making everything significant in your life?

Something has happened in the last few years (ok… a lot has happened) but *in* this moment, I’m really noticing how we make *everything* have so much significance.

I notice it everywhere.

I notice it with business owners, who get stuck taking action because they’re so fixated on knowing their purpose.

I notice it with people in various seasons of life.

The 50 somethings who crave a different kind of purpose in their life then they’ve had, but are concerned about agism. Not saying that they don’t have evidence as to why they should be,  but I’ve noticed how much it contributes to their worry.

I notice it with the upcoming driven 20+ somethings who feel they MUST know their purpose in the first quarter of the life.

So much significance placed on every bloody exchange, that it can become a real time suck and energy drain.

So much pressure!


I notice I do it with my husband when he writes to me and doesn’t reference me by the nickname he calls me.  Before I know it, I place so much significance on the exchange, that it causes me to question myself, question him, our relationship.


My intention for pointing to this, isn’t to have a conversation as to why us humans make so much significance out of things, because I think we know why (hello technology that has us connected 24/7, hello expectations and ambition that can cause us to obsess over details).

Instead, my goal is to help you see where you create unnecessary significance in your life,  and by doing so, it’s that *leadership* that’s actually getting in the way of you having a better life.

Consider what happens to you when you give something a lot of significance? Do you start to over-analyze? Do you get stuck in the paradox of choice and not make any movement? Do you become overly prickly and barky with your partner?

When I start to give something a lot of significance I notice I have soooooo much expectation, so much desire to get it all right, and ultimately not a lot of trust.

My leadership in those moments are very much rooted in doubt.

One of the breakthroughs I’ve been actively creating this year in my leadership is instead of holding everything with so much significance, holding things with more grace and ultimately being grace. Which to me means a few things:

+ Assuming the other person has positive intent.

+ Being okay with murkiness and sometimes that means only knowing the very next baby step I’m taking, but not the one after it.

+  Letting myself change my mind and being okay with others changing their mind.


Question for you…

In service to your leadership, what in your life are you making significant, and if you were to hold it slightly differently, how would your life improve for the better?


The #1 desire I hear my clients want day in and day out is more inner peace. A sense of calm. A sense of spaciousness. As I deepen in my leadership and practice not making every dang thing so significant, I notice a much greater sense of calm. If this speaks to you, give it a go and let me know you get on with it.

 

Much Love,

 

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We Spent a Week in Belize 🌴

We just returned from a week in Belize.

It’s incredible what happens when you create space in your life and protect it with clear boundaries. Despite having a very full business and an incredibly loving and involved husband, I was feeling conflicted the month leading up to this holiday – excitement for what’s to come, grief over past losses, anxiety and confusion over what I want to create next in my business. All of my humanity was showing up as a 10! I could feel myself wanting answers, solutions, a playbook stat, leaving very little reverence for where I was at that particular moment.  And, not a lot of curiosity for what was underneath those feelings, which — spoiler alert — was a lot of “should” and “expectations” for what I should want and what I should be doing.  I bet you can relate?

When we left for this trip, I vowed to my clients, my friends, and my team that I would not be bringing my laptop, AND I would not be online at all: no texts, emails, or social posts. Zilch. And truthfully, I was really looking forward to being unavailable (I still had my 3 little[ish] people, so it wasn’t like I was entirely free from responsibility).


For us driven peeps who are incredibly reliable to be productive, get in the trenches and see it through, no matter what, it was a major victory for me in keeping my commitment to myself and honoring the boundaries I’d set. That happens on the soul level, and that is what I call leadership transformation.

The ability to transform who we BE in our soul, in service to experiencing more internal harmony, growing spiritually while creating our true desires in the physical world.

It’s not lost on me for one moment how fortunate we are as a family to be able to travel AND the choices we’ve made that have allowed us to create the life we leave.

 

I intentionally designed this holiday, so that we would be integrated into the local culture and environment and away from tourists, big hotels and, busyness. I wanted to be influenced by the Caribbean way of life, not the Western culture that I live and breathe every day.

 

We spent the first half of our trip on a secluded island with a very small group of people and several local guides. We slept in clean, airy tents and enjoyed fresh homemade meals by two women who were locals from a nearby town on the coast and who proudly presented each meal with gratitude and excitement. The beach had beautiful white sand with loads of local birds, hermit crabs, and iguanas running free plus vibrant hammocks hanging throughout our camp. I was gobsmacked by the beauty and the love these women poured into the preparation of delicious yet very simple meals.

 

 


The days were filled will snorkeling with nurse sharks and spotted rays, fishing, kayak-sailing, stand-up paddleboarding, and my favorite hammock surfing.  Not a hotel or car in site (or tourist for that matter aside from our little group).  This way of life created a clearing for creative thoughts to flourish.

Every morning, I would wake up to the ocean breeze, beaming hot sun, and the feeling of wonder and possibility as we started each day. My mind had begun to relax, and I could feel calm throughout my body and spaciousness in the days to come. Because I had set such clear boundaries and stuck to them, I was in a position to fully take in and receive what was available each day. The weather in the Caribbean is quite unpredictable and, because of that, we didn’t know what activities we could do until that morning.  There was a sense of mystery and unknown about each day, but my relationship to uncertainty was shifting. Instead of feeling anxious, worn out, and worried, I was feeling curious, excited, and calm.

Clarity and creativity come with space.

There’s just no way around it.


When I first take on a new client or a team of leaders, I see their struggle to birth new ideas, and yet be productive at the same time. It’s not that they’re mutually exclusive, but any kind of expansion requires spaciousness to explore and be curious. Days that aren’t filled with back-to-back meetings, meal prep, homework help, and so on. It requires leadership transformation – a commitment at the soul level to surrender and trust that the world you’ve built around you will hold as you step away to slow down.

What would be possible if you were to commit to trusting that the world around you is strong enough to withstand your absence at times if you were to create more space throughout your days? What would you have MORE of that you currently don’t have at all?

As I step back into ALL of my responsibilities (full on, as my husband is back east all week), I will experience contraction as that’s the result of expansion. I’ve intentionally created space to move my body, connect with friends, and serve my clients in a way that allows me to show up from a place of fullness, rather than a deficit.


This wouldn’t be possible without the ongoing transformation I’ve committed to creating in my leadership (shout out to my coaches for all of your support!).

I want this for you, too.

It’s so much more fulfilling and fun. I’ve opened up space in my diary at the end of the month for 3 people or organizations who would like to experience a complimentary coaching conversation in service to exploring what’s possible right now for you or your team.

Email me to grab one of the spots. 

 

Anything is possible,

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One of the greatest moments in leadership came from the Oscars

What a week!

Yes, I live in LA, and work amongst a lot of people in the creative industry, but I still couldn’t get over how many conversations I heard in the past week following the Chris Rock + Will Smith moment at the Oscars.  Not to mention all of the op-ed pieces, social posts, and memes written from all around the world.

The conversation that interests me the most is actually one I haven’t heard discussed much and it’s about Chris Rock’s ability to lead in the face of any circumstance.

To be clear – I’m NOT saying I thought his joke was ok, but the conversation I want to point to has nothing to do with the content itself – it has everything to do with how we relate to circumstance, person, event, etc. I’m a big believer that the issue is never the issue, instead, the issue is how we relate to the issue (read that twice)!

When I think about leadership opportunities for my clients (and myself) across the boardroom, in marriages, and with our children, it all comes down to how we show up at the moment and relate to the person or situation.
Every single one of us has found ourselves in situations where we feel fired up, embarrassed, disappointed, dismissed, ignored (I could go on).  Chris Rock showed us that even when you’re feeling all the feels, it is possible to hunker down in your body and stand grounded and calm. That struck me as an incredibly teachable moment in leadership. He made it look easy.

Brene Brown does an impeccable job in her latest book and TV series, “Atlas of the Heart” helping us build a bridge between our thinking and our emotion, so when we put our head on our pillows at night we can look back and know that we were leading from integrity.

Not the wild ego that lives inside of us and can attack viciously, leaving us feeling ashamed and embarrassed.

It’s that bridge that allows us to connect to others, but ultimately stay connected to ourselves during the most difficult times when we start to feel the charge inside of us.

When I watched Chris Rock during that moment, I imagined the charge in his body that lit up. The pressure of having so many eyes on him, the shock of a physical slap, the part of him that felt foolish and wanted to get revenge… and yet, in a moment, in one second, he was able to ground his feelings, and leverage the bridge between his thinking and his emotions. He showed up calm and open.

That required courage and vulnerability.

Can you imagine a world where every single one of us, despite our feelings getting completely bent out of shape at times, and yet LEADING the way in which Chris Rock did?

Imagine the next argument with your partner or your teen, and instead of doing the thing you always do (dismiss, blow up…fill in the blank) you respond vs. react. Or a colleague gives you feedback that you totally disagree with and yet you’re able to stay connected to yourself and them, and even finish the conversation still feeling connected to one another?

*That* is leadership.

So the question for you, my friends becomes…

Question:

What would you have in your life (that you don’t currently have) if you strengthened your ability to lead in those difficult moments – instead of being reactionary?

 

That’s what I call leadership and it’s really the *thing* that defines us and redefines us, and it happens in a moment.

 

Anything is possible,

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Pt. 2 of How we bought our house…

Where do you start when you desire something that is outside of your comfort zone and therefore stirs up all kinds of resistance?

Glad you asked. You start with a VISION.

If you missed last week’s post, take a beat and read HERE for an intentional and simple take on writing a vision (that I guarantee will set you up for success).

For those of you who have your vision around something you desire, this is where manifestation enters the picture. First, I must set the record straight. Praying and reading your vision every day is NOT going to deliver the results you might read on social media.

Connecting with your vision daily is key, you must put structure around your vision, so that you align intentional action with your intention. Think about it. This is why most New Year’s Resolutions fail. My friend Jen decides she wants to lose 15 pounds so she can feel lighter and run a half marathon later in the year. Jen claims she’s going to go to workout 3x a week and eat healthier. While that might sound like structure, it’s lacking a few important pieces that will support her on the days that she feels like skipping her workout and eating ice cream.

 


If you really want to actualize your vision, here’s the tried and true structure I use that turns my goals into a project, making it much more attainable:

1) WHY is this desire/ goal important to you?

2) How do you want to feel as you experience the creation of this desire?
Note: We often ignore this as we’re so attached to the result, but the process can be equally as fulfilling as the result
3) A clear vision
(which you’ve likely already done)
4) Declarations timeline.
In other words a what by when. This is often where people get tripped up, because they don’t declare what they’re going to do by when and so very little movement happens.
5)  Rewards tied to your Declarations  – Do NOT skip this step.
Just like children, we to follow through when rewarded along the way. What will you gift yourself when you complete each declaration?
(This is your project plan so you get to decide)

You can complicate this all you want, but I find the above structure has served me in creating a very lucrative business w/ the type of clients that truly inspire me, a house that I love calling home, a marriage I’m proud of and so much more.

Question:

What small action will you take by this Friday to continue to actualize your biggest desire?

 

I believe in you,

XX

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The GOLD I learned this week with MY coach

I was on the phone with my coach last week and came in quite hot around a situation that had me feeling misunderstood. I could feel the fire in my belly. As a result, I was showing up quite impatient and preoccupied – which is such a crappy feeling.

Can you relate?

As I worked through this and took a look at my part in the situation, I had a real aha moment and wanted to share it with you because I have a hunch it will serve you.

 

When something begins to feel messy, I want it resolved immediately. I apply a sense of urgency. I see it in numerous areas of my life.

  • Dirty Dishes in the sink? Not in my house, but I’ll martyr if I’m the one always doing them.
  • Disagreement with John? I want a resolution. Stat.
  • Boys bickering? I’m reliable to tell them to stop immediately.

Sound familiar?

The impact this has on me (thank you to my coach for reflecting this back to me)  is…
I operate over the top of things in an attempt to button things up. Close the loop. Which leaves me feeling resentful because I haven’t taken time to be with my thoughts when it comes to a disagreement, or ask for help when it comes to a household chore.


 

I realized I’m quite uncomfortable giving myself time and space to be with my thoughts and feelings. But there’s so much gold in doing so.

It’s a muscle I’m working on strengthening, and a super important one because the more we can give ourselves abundance of time and space, the more we’re able to see our part in things.

The more we can see our part, the more we can discern what’s true vs. assumed.

From that place, it’s a lot easier to lead from love even if we don’t agree with the situation.

If you’re one of my people, I’m asserting the impact you want to have in the world is one from a place of love and possibility

 

So for this week, I’d love for you to consider…

The next time you feel ticked off….

 

I believe in you,

XX,

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My #1 insight after coaching in Costa Rica for 13 days

I’m on my flight back from Costa Rica, after 13 days in the jungle with 16 other humans from every corner of the world – all coaches committed to their work.

It was a transformational experience to say the least.

Something that completely struck me yesterday was when one of the participants asked me if I was excited to go home. It hit me in that moment. While I missed my husband, our cheeky boys, and my own bed….for the first time I didn’t have the anxiousness to get back.

This was a big AHA moment for me.

Normally, after a few days I start to get consumed with thoughts like…

  • “I need to get home to finish x, y, z”
  • “My clients are going to check out if I’m not there to support them”
  • “Is the kids homework getting turned in and are they prepped for their weekly tests?”
  • “John must be exhausted as it’s a full-time job parenting with two, let alone one”
Side Note:  These thoughts have nothing to do with John, my children, or my clients, and everything to do with my stuff and the significance I would place on being ‘away’ from work and responsibilities.

Productivity for me
(and probably you if you’re one of my people)
has been a part of my DNA for as long as I can remember.

 

The feeling of checking things off, closing loops, ‘getting ‘er’ done had been a good feeling…a validating feeling of my worthiness AND it was costing me.

I struggled to relax, to be fully engaged, to be with whatever choice I made at the moment and the worse part was I could hide it. Others didn’t experience so much, but I could feel it in my body. I felt scattered, anxious, and disconnected and at times unfulfilled.

 

 If this speaks to you, here are a few ways you can get practice:

 I haven’t seen my crew in 13 days and I’m feeling incredibly calm and at peace in my body. Don’t get me wrong, I can’t wait to see them, AND my clients this week, but I don’t feel the sense of anxiousness I used to feel after traveling and I certainly don’t have thoughts like ‘I’m going to be so behind in my life….” which use to run my mind!

And it feels really refreshing, freeing, and incredible.

I want this for you, too.

 

So for this week, I’d love for you to consider…

 

Imagine the ripple you’d create with this shift in your leadership!

I believe in you,

XX,

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Are you too busy to accept an opportunity?

THIS WEEKS LEADERSHIP INSIGHT

If you’re too busy to say yes to something you really want, are you willing to lead from a different quality in order to create it?

Almost all of my clients, and myself included, have a bias for action. We like to plow through things and get it done. That also tends to mean that are schedules are packed. Sound familiar?

Part 2 to that, those packed, productive days can also mean that when opportunities we really really want come up (professional, creative, personal, fun) we don’t know what to do.


We freeze, and often turn them down completely. Also sound familiar?
Case in Point: I was at a wedding a few weeks ago and one of my clients spontaneously invited me to the 3% Conference in Atlanta in two weeks.

I didn’t tell her this, but I’m telling you. My initial thought…. “Is she crazy? That would mean rescheduling nearly 15 client meetings across three days. And the boys… what about the boys, the homework, the cooking, and and and…”

…. Clearly, that came from fear.

Then I thought….” is she being serious?”
All the while I could feel a burst of positive energy and excitement course through my body.

Experience and impact are two values I live by, and the 3% Conference is something I’ve wanted to participate in for years. In a nutshell it’s a very established movement in the creative world that believes (as do I) that more women & more diversity = MORE creativity  + more profitability.


Without speaking to my team, my husband, my kids, I blurted, “HELL YES.”
I let go of how I would make it all work and I chose to lead from trust.I get it, I really do. Leadership happens in the moment. Busy bees like us can get such tunnel vision and addicted to the high of planning and completing things, that we deny ourselves the joy of living in the moment.
But there’s another way to lead.

So this week in your leadership…

Can you identify what you’re craving, and then identify what QUALITY you need to lead from to experience that desire.

I chose trust. My team, my family, my own ability. To communicate changes and decide what things can be pushed back or let go. And I know you can choose a different quality to lead from too.

 

Stay tuned as I share my key takeaways and leadership growth from the 3% Conference this week (follow me on socials if you don’t already)!

I’m so glad we’re in this together learning and growing,

XX,

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Was anyone ready for this week?

We’re on the brink of the holiday season and I’m slipping into old patterns.
We waited until this week to sort out Halloween costumes, and Amazon was not an option (gone are the days of excitement and appreciation for my handmade Halloween costumes). Sure enough, we were driving from one Halloween store to another trying to track down a very specific costume.

I could feel the tiredness and irritability setting in. As I was sitting in peak LA traffic with one of my boys and literally asking myself, “What are we doing? Did I learn anything from COVID?” The impact of my choice to drive around looking for one specific costume felt chaotic and wasn’t in alignment with the feeling of grace and ease I desire.

Does anyone else relate to leaving something to the last minutes only to create a chaotic, frustrating experience for yourself?
But I caught it – I noticed that I was leading from that place of chaos and frustration and I checked it.
If anything, COVID taught me to roll with things – to stay open – to lead from a place of flexibility and to model that for those around me.
That’s how leadership works. It’s a choice. It requires us to be an active participant. Even if you’re facing extreme circumstances, it still comes down to you choosing leadership from moment to moment. And yes, it can feel very uncomfortable.

I have a hunch that the holidays are going to test us this year. Most of us are still climbing out of a dark hole adjusting to socializing again. Sorting out the dance between supporting our own needs while also delivering on all of our commitments.

As we approach the holiday season, what quality will you choose to lead from in service to having the experience you desire?

I’m choosing openness, with the intention of not being attached to an outcome because I know that’s how pinch-me-moments happen. Bring on the ease and grace, please!

I can’t wait.

XX,

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Do you CHOOSE possibility or do you argue for your limitations?

Today’s leadership kick: Where do you argue for your limitations/life circumstances instead of choosing possibility?

I just returned from 4 days in the majestic National Zion Park, where I hosted the retreat for The Board. These women have spent 9 months consistently choosing to show up for each other and themselves. Through two hour group coaching calls they grew their leadership and experience into the most authentic and powerful version of themselves.  These women, like you, live very active lives. CEO’s, Entrepreneurs, Mothers, and had every good reason to cancel up until the last minute…BUT they didn’t.

They chose to come.

They chose to lead from curiosity.

Courage.
Growth.
Desires.

They chose to BE uncomfortable.

 

Where most people want something different but continue to cling to cruise control, these women chose otherwise.

A lot of people talk about wanting to grow their leadership by reading a self-help book or listening to a podcast, but then get distracted with life and rarely anything changes
Not my people.

These women experienced their edge when it came to their own leadership last weekend. I was reminded that there is no replacement for experiencing coaching in the great outdoors.  There’s a depth in the connection that gets created and that lends itself, so beautifully, to people dropping their armor and opening their hearts to being a stand for one another.


Ah-ha Highlights

At one point, one of the women said how much she loved the hike, but hated having to look down all the time to avoid tripping on the rocks.  Hours later realizing that was a telling metaphor for how she shows up in life –

if she’s constantly focused on what’s WAY out in front of her, it can lead to future tripping ⇢ which can stir up anxiety and in-action.
Realizing there are times where it’s necessary to focus on what’s right in front of her if she wants to take action and make changes.


Another Board member noticed she often chose to be in the back of the hikes, and when she would move to the front of the group, she felt wildly uncomfortable! She made it mean, in her head, that somehow she wasn’t as strong of a leader as the other women because she wasn’t in the front. Only to realize that leadership doesn’t look one way –  and for her, hanging back and bringing up the rear allowed her to lead authentically.

If it weren’t for these women sitting in their discomfort and expanding their ability to sit in it, they wouldn’t have experienced these insights.

Subtle yes. Transformative, you better believe it. 

You can read a version of this kind of growth somewhere, but when you experience it, embody it, that’s when you physically begin to show up differently in situations and lead from a more conscious place.

SO….WITH THAT

I have so much more to share, but for now, consider, “Who do you want to BE?”

How will you choose to BE in order to show up in leadership in ALL areas of your life?

If you’re one of my people and believe revolutionary growth happens inside revolutionary relationships, DM me to learn more about The Board 2022. We start in Feb. and the first spot has already been claimed! And…I’ll be announcing something very special about The Board for 2022 this week that has ME leaning into my edge.

Will you choose YOU this coming year?
Never underestimate possible.

I believe in you,

XX,

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Preparing for something important?

Today’s leadership kick: Before that big event or meeting, take the time to create a vision for how you want to experience it. Then let that vision guide the choices you make.

This Friday I’ll be heading to Zion National Park with a group of incredibly driven, open-hearted, growth-minded women who have been part of my group coaching program over the last 9 months.

These are driven women who wear many different hats.  They are committed to growing their own leadership while at the same time being a stand for one another in a very honest, transparent and open-hearted way. It’s required a big investment of time, money, and energy. So now we’re off to do the work in-person in the midst of magical Zion.

For me, there was a time leading up to big meetings and events where the week prior would feel chaotic. I’d have an endless list of things to do, and quite frankly, wasn’t a whole lot of fun to be around because of how much pressure I’d put on myself. The big meeting/event would ultimately go well but the experience leading up was so far from what I wanted and I simply put I didn’t know any other way to BE.

How do you show up prior to an important work event?
  • Do you jam-pack your schedule?
  • Over-prepare to the point where you’re staying up late and then feel rubbish the next morning?
  • Do you become snippy with people around you?
  • Do you question if you know enough?
  • Do you obsess over all the details?
  • Do you feel a huge sense of relief when you actually get on the other side of the event?

If any of the above resonates with you, I so get it. I’ve realized through my own growth that the experience leading up to the event/meeting is equally important to me.

In fact, I often find it’s more enjoyable or equal to the event itself.  As I go into the final week leading up to this retreat now, I still feel a variety of emotions: excitement, jitters, a bit of anxiousness – but above all I feel calm and grounded.

That question will draw you into the present moment, and from there you can choose to course correct and lead from such qualities like curiosity, vulnerability, grace, etc.. And as a bonus, here’s a pro-tip.

Regardless of how big the event or meeting is, take time to create a vision for how you want to experience it. This will give altitude while also connecting you to the experience, instead of focusing on the end result. Length of your vision doesn’t matter, so don’t get caught up! Write your vision in the present tense and remember, it’s this vision or something even better for your highest good.

Then let that vision guide the choices you make.

For example: I’ve cleared my evenings this week, so I have space to relax and rest. I’ve also let colleagues know that I’ll be less available this week. Not so I can fill that time but so I can create space. That space is what allows me to lead with a wide-open heart. This is the key to being an impactful and effective leader.

I’ll be sharing more about Zion as I have insights and learnings for you all, but in the meantime, slow your roll if you want to experience the gold that’s available to you in those BIG moments.

I believe in you,

XX,

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Do you judge yourself?

Today’s leadership kick: It’s hard to show up in leadership if you’re full of judgment.

I had a doozy of a day last week. I was in a coaching session with a client who generously provided some feedback and my ego had a heyday. Before I knew it I had a pit in my stomach, I started to sweat, and my speaking sped up. I started talking too much, which is always a sign that I’m working way too hard trying to prove something. I’d lost my way, clearly, and it felt crappy in the moment and even crappier when I got off the call.

Fortunately for me, I had my weekly call with two coaches I work with directly after.  By this point, I was in a giant shame spiral and wishing I’d handled it differently.

One of the coaches gracefully reminded me about a concept from one of my favorite leadership books, ‘Getting Real’: the idea that I can go out and come back in.
As soon as she said it, my little voice went: ‘my clients, friends, and children get do-overs, but I certainly don’t.

Then it hit me. Why the heck not?!

I realized I have a pattern. When I don’t get something right, I beat myself up about it, leaking energy all over the place, which in turn keeps me from “going back in” and giving myself a do-over.  And because I had little-to-no self-forgiveness for how I’d shown up, I had zero capacity to see what was possible by going back to the client and cleaning it up.

” It’s hard to show up in leadership if who you’re BEING in the moment is full of judgment.”

So I got to work on the self-forgiveness bit – I’ll share practical pro tips on that in the coming weeks. I found compassion for ‘not getting it right the first time.’  Then I was empowered to go back to my client and have the conversation again but from a place of responsibility and accountability. 

It was another reminder that we have leadership moments all day long. The more we choose to BE in leadership, to cause leadership vs. be at the effect of it, the more we’re able to experience possibility and compassion for ourselves.

I believe in you,

XX,

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Stop Saying It Will Be Hard

Today’s leadership kick: Stop saying it will be hard and choose a different context to lead from.

Alright. I’ve been sitting on this for a while because it goes against what some of my most treasured writers and mentors reiterate over and over.  But I can’t hide my truth.

Absolutely, us humans CAN DO hard things. Need proof? Just look around.

I noticed this week:

  • A single mom raising three teenagers while working full-time
  • A 13 year old stepping into their sexuality and gender preference by sharing it with her family
  • The homeless person on the corner who’s just slept all night on the streets

Choosing to live by the mantra “I can do hard things” will actually keep reinforcing that things are hard.

WHY?

Because that’s the context you’re choosing to buy into. If you approach your day, that conversation, that idea, that big event as “this is going to be hard,” you’re damn right, it will be. Every time.

Understanding context will help you lead in a way that feels empowering and doable. Most of us default to circumstances informing our context. For ex: we just moved to a new house. If I tell myself weeks on end this is going to be so hard because we have to move with 3 kids in tow, how do you think I’ll experience it?

Or, I was on with a Creative Director this week and he mentioned he needs to have a conversation with a colleague and didn’t want to have it because it was going to be “hard.”

I asked him, “How do you know?

Which of course he then responded with a variety of reasons as to why it would be hard. All of which were assumptions. They might have even been good assumptions based on previous experiences, but they were still assumptions.

I challenged him to consider a different context to lead from. He chose curiosity. We worked on how he could frame having the conversation from a place of curiosity, and different language tone, and CONTEXT started to percolate. And guess what?! He started to feel more grounded and calm – which will no doubt help how he starts that conversation.

Instead of telling yourself, you can do hard things, which reinforces that it will be hard, choose a different context.


I’m leaning into the mantra  “We can BE uncomfortable.” Because I know when I choose to get outside of my comfort zone and feel the jitters that arise in that space, that’s where magic happens. By living from that context, I notice it creates a crack in the experience for light to come in and often more times than not, it wasn’t ALL hard.

Context is everything.  Everything. If you don’t choose your context for the day, trust me, the world will choose it for you.

SO IN YOUR LEADERSHIP THIS WEEK….

Notice if your telling yourself that things will be hard, and then buying into it even more by telling yourself you can do hard things *we know you can*.

Instead, what context might you choose to live from today?  

I’m choosing to remind myself that “we { I } can be uncomfortable.” 

Believing in you,

XX,

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