We’re constantly moving into new seasons, albeit another birthday, children growing up, new job…
All of these can quickly cause busyness, overwhelm and as humans, our knee-jerk reaction is to cut stuff out. Only I see it all the time with my driven clients, the stuff that gets cut is the stuff that feeds their spirit. That fosters the most creative ideas and problem-solving.
I was reminded of this over the weekend, as I help run a Guild for Seattle Children’s Hospital with Mateo Messina, a dear friend and award-winning composer. This was our 23rd concert, and when I got involved over 16 years ago, neither Mateo or I had partners, children or mortgages. We both lived in Seattle and had all the time in the world to gather our group of volunteers and meet regularly in person. Looking back, life seemed so simple, all though I remember feeling like we both had a lot going on. Ha! Little did we know.
Fast forward to this year, after taking two years off for the pandemic, with the help of our small, but mighty group of volunteers, we put on another symphony concert to raise money for Seattle Children’s Hospital. Many of these volunteers live similar lives to Mateo and I, and also live outside of Seattle, Washington. It would have been so easy for any one of us to quit and focus on other priorities.
And yet, we didn’t. One might wonder where Mateo finds time to write a new symphony each year, let alone practice it, and I certainly get asked how I find time to host meetings regularly and keep the trains running on time w/ in the Guild. There’s no magic answer, other than we commit and recommit. This year I brought all my boys up to see it, since only Felix had experienced it in the past. I loved having them there to experience this part of my life AND, you can imagine, it created additional responsibilities, especially since John, my husband, was in Germany all week for work. This is where we have to let go of perfection, and roll with the punches.
The answer is quite simple.
I’m crystal clear on my values and am very intentional about living and leading from them. 3 of my values are connection, experience and impact. In this example, the relationships I I have with the other volunteers are really special, and this fundraising event is nothing like any other experience I’ve had – I get goosebumps (the good kind) every time I hear one of Mateo’s concerts.
To know we’ve raised over $1M for Seattle Children’s Hospital over the years, blows my mind.
It requires discipline and re-commitment to lead and live from your values, but I promise you, the more you embody it, the more fulfilled you will be. The more ALIVE you will feel.
Need help identifying your values? I get it. Email me at Sarah@sarahgibbons.co and I’ll send you my values guide.
Money is on my mind this week as I filled up my car this weekend and $100 didn’t even fill my tank. Not to mention all this talk about a recession. Seriously?! There’s a massive sense of unknown right now, and I’m noticing how it’s bringing up my client’s money stuff (me included) and it’s nerve-wracking.
All relationships are important in life, but our relationship to the money I find is one of the most important because if we get careless with it, you’ll find yourself living anxiously and full of doubt. Our monkey minds can take over in a heartbeat.
Money comes and goes, but how we relate to it on a daily basis is our leadership being called forward. What’s even more important is the energy behind our relationship to money, which is an area I’m constantly revisiting. It’s like a garden. You have to keep checking in on it, watering it so that your flowers continue to flourish and not dry up!
I know the topic of money can bring up so much angst for people, but in service to supporting you in this area, here are a couple of go-two habits that I’ve found wildly helpful in transforming my relationship to money.
On a very regular basis, ask yourself, “What do I really want to use money for?” Being crystal clear with your answer will bolster your connection to your desire and motivate you in times of uncertainty.
Get clear on where your energy leaks are around money. Make a list of outstanding debts, bills etc and revisit it weekly. You’ll be surprised at how your energy goes up when you close loops around money.
Be willing to be honest and transparent on a daily basis with your relationship to money, and stop ‘wanting.’ Willing is different than wanting. When I’m on a call with a client and they’re telling me they want to make $1M, there’s no action in that statement. However, if they’re willing to look at their finances daily, if they’re willing to set tangible goals, if they’re willing to own why they want to make $1M they are stepping into action.
Btw, the number of zero’s you have in your bank account have very little to do with your relationship to money. I work with people regularly who have excessive bank accounts, and they too are taking the same actions above to ensure they are financially and energetically fit.
Speaking of $$, I want to transparently share that my team and I have been working on the next Tidal Summit for September ’22 and getting our heads around what the cost should actually be.
SAVE THE DATE! Sept 17th in the morning (details coming).
With all of this swirl around finances the coaching business can be one of the first things to cut (I see it all the time) as it can feel like an add-on, luxury item. We won’t get into that now, but I get it. So I’m working out how to ensure that Tidal Summit (virtual) is as accessible to you as possible, while still being a meaningful and tangible investment in yourself.
Here’s to strengthening our relationship to money so we can experience all the wealth we desire.
Golly gee whizz, time goes fast. I’m on a two-week holiday up in the PNW, and it’s been wonderful and tiring at the same time – traveling with 4 boys. Grateful for my amazing husband.
The woman in this photo is like a 2nd grandma to me, and she’s going to be turning 90 this December – which I’m always reminded after spending a week with her, age is simply a number. It all comes down to attitude. And how great is that red suit?!
I’m in rest mode, so intentionally not focused on enrolling, but my team nudged me to share what I have going on come Sept because it’s all good stuff. I know some of you are planners!!
Things are feeling FULL steam ahead. Here are ways you can get supported by me in the very near future:
Anyone else find themselves needing space over the last couple of days to mentally, emotionally and physically recharge from ALL that is going on in the world?!
I spent time with John and our oldest son (littles are still away at sleepaway camp) doing a whole lot of nothing and I LOVED IT. I found myself shying away from big groups and wanting to hang with my family, where I know they have my back no matter what.
It really got me thinking about how much as humans we crave a safe harbor. A place we can pull into at any time and dock. Even if we’re in rough waters there’s a sense that we can feel buoyed in the midst of the unstableness.
Now more than ever are you finding that you crave a sense of belonging?
Those people that totally get you?! The kind of relationships that when you share, you instinctively feel like you’re the only person that matters to them in that moment?
Those people that have the guts to tell you the truth (from a place of love) because they’re more committed to seeing you fully BE even if ruffles you a bit, vs. saying the thing that keeps you comfortable?
For me, I have my husband, but I also have a group I’ve invested in that has become my safe harbor. It’s been a place for me to nurture my heart while also getting honest support around being a business owner, a mother, and a wife.
Sometimes we *think* we have a safe harbor, but we come to realize it lacks depth – SG
Are you desiring a greater sense of belonging, where you not only feel totally seen, but you can receive honest and open feedback on actions you’re taking to move your goals (personal and work) forward?
If you are, we should talk. You can email me at Sarah@sarahgibbons.co. For my working Mothers, I have an immediate opportunity for you to consider. I’ll be going live about The Mother Boardtomorrow at 8am PST.
Something has happened in the last few years (ok… a lot has happened) but *in* this moment, I’m really noticing how we make *everything* have so much significance.
I notice it everywhere.
I notice it with business owners, who get stuck taking action because they’re so fixated on knowing their purpose.
I notice it with people in various seasons of life.
The 50 somethings who crave a different kind of purpose in their life then they’ve had, but are concerned about agism. Not saying that they don’t have evidence as to why they should be, but I’ve noticed how much it contributes to their worry.
I notice it with the upcoming driven 20+ somethings who feel they MUST know their purpose in the first quarter of the life.
So much significance placed on every bloody exchange, that it can become a real time suck and energy drain.
So much pressure!
I notice I do it with my husband when he writes to me and doesn’t reference me by the nickname he calls me. Before I know it, I place so much significance on the exchange, that it causes me to question myself, question him, our relationship.
My intention for pointing to this, isn’t to have a conversation as to why us humans make so much significance out of things, because I think we know why (hello technology that has us connected 24/7, hello expectations and ambition that can cause us to obsess over details).
Instead, my goal is to help you see where you create unnecessary significance in your life, and by doing so, it’s that *leadership* that’s actually getting in the way of you having a better life.
Consider what happens to you when you give something a lot of significance? Do you start to over-analyze? Do you get stuck in the paradox of choice and not make any movement? Do you become overly prickly and barky with your partner?
When I start to give something a lot of significance I notice I have soooooo much expectation, so much desire to get it all right, and ultimately not a lot of trust.
My leadership in those moments are very much rooted in doubt.
One of the breakthroughs I’ve been actively creating this year in my leadership is instead of holding everything with so much significance, holding things with more grace and ultimately being grace. Which to me means a few things:
+ Assuming the other person has positive intent.
+ Being okay with murkiness and sometimes that means only knowing the very next baby step I’m taking, but not the one after it.
+ Letting myself change my mind and being okay with others changing their mind.
Question for you…
In service to your leadership, what in your life are you making significant, and if you were to hold it slightly differently, how would your life improve for the better?
The #1 desire I hear my clients want day in and day out is more inner peace. A sense of calm. A sense of spaciousness. As I deepen in my leadership and practice not making every dang thing so significant, I notice a much greater sense of calm. If this speaks to you, give it a go and let me know you get on with it.
For all my peeps out there whose #1 value is connection, read this carefully as you might be falling into the trap that I notice a lot of my community, clients and friends are.
Now more than ever as we emerge from 2 years working at home, little to know travel and/or interactions with others, we’re all craving connection. So much so, that we often choose a connection over saying what we really need to say.
I was working with a company’s president this week and we were discussing a conversation that he was planning on having with one of his C-Suite Execs that was the kind of conversation that if it didn’t happen, they’d have a major issue with retention in the near future.
I noticed every time we started to talk about the intention behind the conversation, how we was going to show up and what he was going to say, he would start to squirm and get distracted with other priorities. It was obvious he didn’t want to have this conversation and just the thought of if was bringing up a ton of discomfort.
This president values integrity as much as connection, but when it came to the possible thought of having a conversation that could trigger a colleague and cause a possible argument, he was paralyzed by fear. So relatable right?!
We live in a world that’s constantly telling us to ‘Be authentic. Speak up. Tell your truth.’ Yet, even when the stakes are high in the boardroom, or at home with our partners or our children, how many times do we (YOU) choose connection over authenticity, thinking they’re mutually exclusive?
Let’s be real.
There is a massive impact on each one of us when we choose comfort and connection over speaking up.
Where, in your life, are you avoiding sharing your most authentic self, because you’re prioritizing connection even though it’s at the cost of you really sharing yourself?
Think about it.
I bet you don’t have to look too far.
We’re human and we have a bias for comfort – but the last thing we need in this world is people avoiding speaking up and dancing around the truth.
Will you be courageous today and share your authentic self over connection in the moment?
Guess what… More times than not, the more authentic you are, the greater sense of true connection you end up creating in the long run.