The GOLD I learned this week with MY coach
I was on the phone with my coach last week and came in quite hot around a situation that had me feeling misunderstood. I could feel the fire in my belly. As a result, I was showing up quite impatient and preoccupied – which is such a crappy feeling.
Can you relate?
As I worked through this and took a look at my part in the situation, I had a real aha moment and wanted to share it with you because I have a hunch it will serve you.
When something begins to feel messy, I want it resolved immediately. I apply a sense of urgency. I see it in numerous areas of my life.
- Dirty Dishes in the sink? Not in my house, but I’ll martyr if I’m the one always doing them.
- Disagreement with John? I want a resolution. Stat.
- Boys bickering? I’m reliable to tell them to stop immediately.
The impact this has on me (thank you to my coach for reflecting this back to me) is…
I operate over the top of things in an attempt to button things up. Close the loop. Which leaves me feeling resentful because I haven’t taken time to be with my thoughts when it comes to a disagreement, or ask for help when it comes to a household chore.
I realized I’m quite uncomfortable giving myself time and space to be with my thoughts and feelings. But there’s so much gold in doing so.
It’s a muscle I’m working on strengthening, and a super important one because the more we can give ourselves abundance of time and space, the more we’re able to see our part in things.
The more we can see our part, the more we can discern what’s true vs. assumed.
From that place, it’s a lot easier to lead from love even if we don’t agree with the situation.
If you’re one of my people, I’m asserting the impact you want to have in the world is one from a place of love and possibility
So for this week, I’d love for you to consider…
The next time you feel ticked off….
I believe in you,
Tags: #cominginhot, #gold, #realte, coaching.