I can’t sleep, my heart has something to say to you.
We’re leaving on a 13-hour road trip today, and I just couldn’t sleep. Rather then tossing and turning I decided to write to our SG Tribe. This is a longer share, but there’s no quieting my heart, so I appreciate you being here, reading and engaging my thoughts (pls excuse typos). I have an invitation for you in this note, so pls stay with me! Also, it’s no accident that it’s Juneteenth today. In case you don’t know, Juneteenth is the oldest nationally celebrated commemoration of the ending of slavery in the United States. Yet, as we’ve seen, it didn’t put racism to death.
That’s where you and I enter the picture.
Connection is my #1 value and I believe at the end of the day, it’s the quality, the value, the feeling that every single one of us is craving the most with ourselves and with each other. It’s like oxygen. Without, we can’t breathe and we most certainly can’t co-exist side-by-side in a world that fosters justice and peace for BIPOC.
I believe connection necessary ingredient required MLK’s dream to become true, “One day we will live in a nation where we (they) will not be judged by the color of their skin, but by the content of their character.” MLK
Just over a week ago I was sitting with one of my best friends, Tashion Macon, Godmother to our youngest son, having one of our heart to heart convos as we always do. We started off having a good laugh over recent Netflix shows we’ve watched, to sharing the latest on our relationships and work wins and challenges. Without missing a beat, we moved into sharing what was really on our mind regarding the ever-present racism towards Black, BIPOC in our country. As Tashion was sharing, and I was struck by how comfortable, connected and safe we both felt in baring our soul, asking each other poignant questions, and not thinking twice about ‘getting it wrong.’
This may surprise you, but we’ve been asked many times how we became such good friends. People have noticed there’s sisterly love, and acceptance, a love, respect amongst is unshakeable.
It’s an interesting question when you think about it, and one that’s stopped me in my tracks and left me baffled as well as her. It pains me to say this, but I have a hunch we get asked it because she’s black and I’m white.
See our friendship grew out of a connection of spirituality. At the time, I was completing an advanced degree in Spirituality and Tashion had already completed her advanced studies in Spiritual Psychology. That connection point was the ripple that enhanced, evolved, and expanded our relationship and ultimately formed a friendship with no edges.
It’s this kind of connection that starts from a place of seeing the good in someone, extending grace when you notice your friend fumbling to learn and grow and no-matter-what champion them to be the best version of themselves.
Tashion and I both agreed quite quickly that there is a massive group of people in our world black and white, who have felt much of the below:
Hungry to have a soul-to-soul connection with people of different color.
Desire to impact humanity that fosters equality for BIPOC and change the trajectory for generations to come.
Are White and are afraid to speak up, even though they know intellectually they have to be willing to sit in the discomfort of saying the wrong thing in service to their growth around becoming anti-racist.
Are BIPOC and have felt a range of anger, disappointment, frustration, and betrayal with the lack of white people trying to understand and connect with them in a way that fosters really feeling seen, understood, and supported. As a result, hold back sharing their truest feelings for fear they will be even more judged and belittled.
Can you relate?
Tashion and I have observed the main approach being highlighted in social media distinguishing anti-racism, stems from a place of looking at how we’re different, vs. how we’re similar. It’s a nuance, but it’s actually really important. The strategy that’s being encouraged is to read everything you possibly can on anti-racism while also listening to as many podcasts as possible on the subject. Listen and learn. I’m all for expanding our minds and this kind of learning is valuable, however, more information doesn’t magically create transformation. Especially if digested alone. If it were that easy, we probably wouldn’t be having this conversation in 2020.
We believe change happens at the heart of CONNECTION and requires INTENTIONAL ACTION that is authentic to you. It’s from this place, we’re able to build a bridge between one another and hold each other’s hearts with a preciousness and speak to our differences, with the intention that BIPOC absolutely are equal and should be treated that way.
Tashion and I have partnered before and have always known we’ve had a calling to serve together and create impact, and the time is now.
We’re on a BIG intentional mission and are creating a movement & a curated community called ‘In The Ripple’ that places connection at the heart of change, first focusing on black equality and then rippling out to ALL of humanity.
It is from this foundation that we facilitate conversations, rooted in connection and commonality, for a more hopeful and just future for all.
Mark your calendars on 6.27.20 8am PT- to 9:30PT for our 1st ‘Connected Conversation.’
The heart of honest conversation and humanity meets here, rippling inwards, outward, forward, and onward.
Together, we have a toolkit of connection and conversation strategies that will positively enhance persons committed to being the change they wish to see in the world and the change humanity so desperately is crying out for in these unprecedented times. This conversation is for black women, men, and white women, men to come together in a space with no edges.
We’re not claiming to be experts in anti-racism, but we are owning our superpowers as masterful co-facilitators around conversations that inspire action and are rooted in connection.
HOW TO PARTICIPATE IN THE VIRTUAL CONNECTED CONVO ON 6.27.20?
All we’re asking is that you make a donation to Color of Change, an organization we wholeheartedly believe in. Share with us that you’ve donated, and we’ll get you squared away with all the necessary details for our Connected Convo as well as admit you into our private @intheripple FB Group.
We’re limiting the size of this group because we’re very particular about how we facilitate and ensure that this is absolutely a safe space for voices to be heard, expressed and connection to be fostered in a way that creates sustainable change at the soul level. Spots are limited, so if this speaks to you, pls email me at my personal email Sarah@sarahgibbons.co by Wed. June 24th, and I will personally respond to you. Join In the Ripple, ‘Connected Conversation’ Virtual Summit on 6.27.20.