Gratitude and Ambition: Together At Last
I’ve been thinking a lot about Gratitude since Thanksgiving is just a few days away. I keep having this thought around it and wonder if you have too. From as young as I can remember, I was taught to be grateful and happy for what I have. As an adult, I’ve noticed gratitude has been productized. There are gratitude journals, gratitude apps, gratitude books…it goes on and on and on. With the commercializing of gratitude comes the pressure of feeling like you have to always be grateful! Consciously grateful! Sound familiar?
And yet, as I begin to think about 2018 and what my soul is craving and what I want more of, I struggle with making it okay to want more. I mean, after all, life is quite good. I have a lot to be thankful for: husband who loves me even when I’m grumpy, three healthy boys with a zest for life, and a career that allows me to make a massive impact in the world and make a living doing something I love). Yet, I want more. That little voice in the back of my head starts wondering things like, ‘does it make me selfish because I want more and worse, why can’t I be happy with what I have?” Sound familiar?
Please tell me you can relate. Just this past week, I was telling my husband how sometimes I wish my ambition would just go away. I mean, seriously. It can be so annoying at times because it can create feelings like overwhelm, exhaustion, and doubt. How many times have you said to yourself, “Can’t I just be grateful for what I have and have created?”
One of the million dollar questions. How does gratitude and ambition co-exist? How do you feel appreciation and give yourself permission to want more? Specifically more fulfillment, more laughter, more money, more attention, more sex, more impact, more travel …the list goes on and on and on.
What if it’s as simple as acceptance. What if you made it OK for your desire to want more, and you didn’t make it mean you’re not grateful for ALL that you have and are.
What if you accepted the fact that you’re constantly evolving and, as a result, your soul requires you to go deeper and have new experiences.
What if you just assumed the Universe/ God/Spirit knows that you’re thankful, so you don’t have to diminish your desires and goals?
I know we’re all trained to (and sold the concept of!) publicly show our appreciation, to say thank you whenever given the opportunity, and to reside in gratitude. Just imagine for a moment that you that you continue to leverage gratitude as a point of departure, but you create an AND relationship with your ambition.
What would the impact be for you?
I believe that by creating more AND relationships in our lives, we will experience a much greater sense of purpose, pleasure, and fulfillment. Imagine feeling super engaged with your children AND doing extremely purposeful and fulfilling work?
Or, imagine feeling super connected to your husband AND full of energy as a mother?
All of the sudden, can you begin to imagine the possibilities? I sure can.
I get the feeling of expansion, and you know what happens when you live in that space don’t you?
That’s right! The unthinkable becomes thinkable, and the impossible because possible.
I’m challenging you this week. While you’re doing whatever daily gratitude exercise that fires you up, accept the part of you that wants more. Press into it and give that part of you room to talk, to share, and to express herself. I can only imagine how much she has to say! In fact, would you be willing to share in the comments what it is you want more of? I know I speak for all of us when I say, we promise to not judge you. We promise to acknowledge you, to see you, and to congratulate you on owning what it is you really want.
Go for it. Let gratitude and ambition co-exist this week and see where it takes you. I know for me, I’m incredibly thankful for all of you and my unbelievably supportive family and friends. AND, I want to make a bigger impact. I want to help more people like you experience all of their God-given talents, so they can experience what’s possible while also enjoying the full experience of living as much as possible. Full stop.