Need a Go-To Tool to Shift That Old Perspective?
Look around your space for an entire minute (set your timer) and, with the full force of your attention, commit to memory every red thing in the space. Don’t read on until you’ve done that.
Now close your eyes and bring to your mind everything in your space that’s blue.
Tough, right? You’ve just spent all of your energy seeing and memorizing what’s red, so you probably didn’t pay too much attention to what’s blue. But, and this is the most important part, you know in your mind that blue was present everywhere.
Here’s my point: you’re awareness is made up of what you pay attention to, and your perspective is the combined influence of your awareness over time. So, the next time you are feeling like something crappy, terrible, or awful happened TO you, remind yourself of this exercise. Tell yourself that you are seeing the red, but remember there is blue everywhere too. Keep expanding your mind around the possibility of what the blue might be and seek it. You cannot see another perspective without first seeking it. Trust that it is possible and go for it.
Let me give you a concrete example:
My husband was out of town traveling for work last week, and after three days, I was succumbing to the daily pressures of single, working parenthood. As I stood emptying the dishwasher that evening, my attention was on what my husband was doing — quality dinner out with uninterrupted conversation, movie night — something more adult and enjoyable than emptying the dishwasher and folding laundry, for sure. From there, my attention went to how unfair it was that it was so easy for him to leave town, how lucky he was that I keep all the trains running on time, organize play dates, get the homework done, etc. I’m sure you can go with me down this black hole of martyrdom.
So what did I do? I stopped unloading the dishwasher, took a deep breath, and tried to look for blue. What else is possible? Can I seek a possible way in which this experience is happening FOR me? And, you know what? I could. I didn’t believe it at first, but I trusted that it was there, and I sought it out. I imagined it and gave it as much attention and life as I had been giving my thoughts of victimhood.
Sisters. I grabbed a new book I’ve been wanting to start and sat down on the couch. The pure comfort, peace, and joy that filled my body was palpable. You won’t believe what happened next: because I felt so relaxed, decisions that I had been sitting on suddenly became easier to make. The answers were clear. I felt connected to my intuition. I was so high from the book that I forgot about the extra responsibility I was feeling from my husband being out of town.
You get my point, sisters. Give this exercise a try and let me know how you get on.
It’s time to do the work and put your new perspective into action.
Will you be courageous enough and share with our community by posting below about your experience?
Tell me all the blue you see,