How to upgrade your mindset and say goodbye to self-doubt

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It’s almost impossible to accomplish anything with a mindset that’s full of self-doubt. As you’ve probably already discovered you can’t take risks or steps forward when you’re full of question marks. Self-doubt leads to limiting beliefs, which do not empower you. Limiting Beliefs are a thought that runs through your head, particularly if it’s a repeated thought that arises against your will. Essentially, it gives you a reason not to explore the vast world of possibility that exists for your life. Examples I’ve heard from clients in the past week alone include, “I’m too old,” “It will be too hard,” “I’ll never see my kids,” “I don’t even know what I want.”

Sometimes women don’t identify limiting beliefs as such because they may not manifest as words, but instead as a feeling. This is particularly true if you’re a visual or kinesthetic learner like me; your limiting beliefs might feel like a vague anxiety every time you think about a particular topic, or as a general sense of limitation, restriction, or block in some part of your body.

If you have a habitual or familiar thought, feeling, or sensation in response to an idea or situation, especially one that feels automatic and doesn’t feel good, chances are that’s a limiting belief at work in your life.

If you’ve ever heard the phrase, “You don’t get what you want, you get what you believe,” you know the importance of identifying your core belief systems and bringing them into your awareness. This is not easy work, mamas, but it will change your life.

There was a time when I believed that I had to play it safe in my career because I was a mom–hat if I really followed my heart, it would mean that I was going to have to sacrifice everything. This would mean I wouldn’t see my children or my husband nearly as much as I wanted to, and I wouldn’t make the kind of income I was accustomed to earning. This belief kept me stuck for a long time. I realized the belief wasn’t in alignment with one of my core values: service.

If this happens to you, it’s a red flag. Your values are the foundation for your mindset, and if you’re buying into false beliefs, you’re going to feel out of alignment, unmotivated, unhappy, and unfulfilled.  

Do you know your core values? If so, what are they? If not, now is a good time to claim your top six values. Knowing these values will serve as your checks and balances when you start to buy into a limiting belief.

I can’t think of anything worse than getting to the end of my life and feeling like I didn’t live to my full potential or expression. Can you?! Getting ahold of your limiting beliefs that stifle your mindset is a must.

I (we) all want to hear from you and support you. Please post in the comments section your top six values. When listing them, here’s a tip: make a long list first and don’t limit yourself. Just write down whatever words or phrases come to mind. Once you have a comprehensive list, you can group them into a bigger categories such as personal growth, joy, and self-expression.

I can’t wait to get to know you more by learning your personal values, so please don’t forget to post in the comment section below.


Much love,



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