Month: January 2016

Are You Dying inside?

Do you feel like you could do your job with your eyes closed?  Stuck going through the motions because each time you start to consider any other possibility that would feel more purposeful, impactful –heck FUN– you can’t imagine starting over? How would you make as much money? What would you actually do? Before you know it, you’re right back where you’ve started; only this time you might be convincing yourself, “It’s not so bad. The hours are okay. The pay is good…”

This is what I call unconscious living. And as a result, parts of us start to feel unfilled because we’re living in mediocrity.

In service to helping my CWM community, I got to the point where I felt like I was dying inside. I had hit a glass ceiling in my career and wasn’t making the impact or living on purpose in the way I had dreamt about. You might be thinking, “what dreams?!” Exactly?! My dreams had slipped away because I was choosing to live unawake, unengaged, and out of alignment. Maybe you can relate. Or maybe you’ve experienced justifying these feelings because other areas of your life you do feel completely alive and awake – your marriage or your role as a mother seem perfectly in tact.

Now what? You’re dying inside and, with a snap of a finger, another year will go by. No more “fake it until you make it” attitude.  Screen Shot 2016-01-22 at 12.40.37 PM

Here’s a secret game I use to play to help me wake up and start to get real clear on what it is I want and how it is I want to experience my life.  I always knew time was precious and I wanted to live BIG, otherwise what was the point? “Go big or stay home,” is what an old sales boss use to tell me when I was 20 something.

So, I would write out my obituary just as I wanted to read it. This might sound silly, but when you read it out loud something powerful happens. You’ll see. I don’t want to spoil it, so I’m asking you to trust me.

15 MIN EXERCISE TO WAKE YOU UP

Take out a piece of paper.

Set timer for 15 minutes

Writing assignment: Write your obituary from the place of how you want to be remembered.

Consider these questions:

What kind of impact do you want to leave?
How do you want to be remembered?
What are the qualities people would use to describe you?

It is from this place, I’m inviting you to take stock in how you’re experiencing your day. Your life, your career, and trust what comes forward.

For me,  I couldn’t believe what I found on the other side. A sense of freedom, empowerment,  ease, impact, creativity, prosperity, and joy that I didn’t think was possible.

In support of your own awaking and experiencing the fullness of your life,

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Stop Thinking You Have To Be In Control & Instead Try This…

Today, I feel full possibility. Inspiration. Excitement for 2016.

But, I have a confession. Last week when my husband and I were trying to get our three boys dressed for school, lunches made, and get out the door by 7:45, I felt anxious.

Overwhelm set in. No time for meditation at the early hour.

I’ve noticed this is when I have thoughts of feeling like I need to be in control of every situation in my life to ‘make it work.’ Especially in the New Year. Sound familiar?

The desire to have it all figured it out. Your next professional move. The children’s Spring Break planned. Your girls weekend in the works. Oh, and add: be more patient with your partner and children to that list.

I’ve been seeing this frantic energy and desire to know that everything is going to be ok amongst many of my clients this past week and, admittedly, myself; it doesn’t feel good.

So, I could tell you what my track coach would tell me: shake it off.

Or, you could try a completely different approach. What if you fast forward all the way to the end of the year…New Years Eve. Take five minutes and pretend that you’re sitting with your best friend. You’re so excited to tell her about your year. It’s just as you imagined it. Professionally, you really went for it. You did that one thing you’ve been dying to do. Personally, you stretched beyond your boundaries. You took your relationship to a whole new level you didn’t know possible. As a Mom, you feel even more connected to your children in a way that you didn’t know was possible.

So now, how would you answer the question, “2016 was my most favorite year because I experienced ….”

From this place, what’s one action step you could commit to to move yourself forward and experience the year that you really desire?

Mama’s, let go of the control. Instead, replace it with how you want to experience this year. It might feel a bit slower. It might feel a bit uncertain. Focusing on the experience, you will expand and gain clarity vs. tightening up the reigns and constricting yourselves to a life of frustration, overwhelm, anxiousness, and, dare I say, exhaustion.

Make this year count,

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