Have You Ever Questioned if Being a Working Mom Is Worth It?
Today marked the beginning of a new chapter. After six years of always having at least one of our boys at home, our youngest son Gus started preschool. While this might sound insignificant compared to the days when they move out for good, it feels monumental to me. And here’s the funny part: I’ve been through this before…twice! But this time felt different. As I was walking out of Gus’s classroom this morning, I could hear him choking on his tears. I had a pit in my stomach. I started to play back the choice I made to become a working Mom, especially during my boys’ early years. I had been warned that time would fly by and before I knew it they would all be in school. And now they are.
As a working Mom, have you ever questioned your choice to work, even during the moments when you find your groove? Feeling like maybe you “should” be at home? Wondering “Was it worth it? Am I worth it?”
There are so many reasons why each of us work. During my discussions with working Moms, I often hear women say that they work because it’s what they know how to do, or that they’re the family breadwinner or that they couldn’t possibly imagine staying home all day with their children. I find that many working Moms feel that they have to work. I’ve observed that many working Moms struggle to claim their ambitions, as if following their non-motherly dreams prevents them from being amazing Moms.
This morning’s event made me question for a minute whether I can be the Mama I want to be and see my ambitions through in this lifetime. Do you remember the dreams you had when you were a little girl? For as long as I can remember, I dreamt of making a huge impact in the word and knew it would be made in a variety of ways—through motherhood, service to others, creative expression….I could feel it.
Yet, when you feel like you might have missed out on one of your child’s memories, it’s so easy as a working Mom to ask yourself if working is worth it. Just remember, you can be any kind of working Mom you want to be. It is so important to remind yourself every day that YOU can be exactly who you want to be and you can walk in this world exactly how you want to walk.
Some tips for walking your walk:
- Replace “I should” statements with “I am”
- Practice gratitude for all the gifts (lessons) you’ve received, both while being a Mom and throughout your career
- Give yourself permission to have YOUR all and live a beautiful, purposeful life
I had a moment this morning when I questioned my choices. But after checking in with myself, I realized I’m exactly where I want to be. I’m feeding my soul the way I want to and making a huge difference in the lives of working Moms and women everywhere. The joy I get from watching these women grow into their best versions and step into their dreams is mind blowing. For me, I’m where right where I want to be.
If you’re feeling a bit stuck, but want to get clear on who you are, how you want to be and how you want to live it, let’s talk. Remember, how you show up in the world is a reflection of your inner reality. With my gaggle of boys all back in school, I’m opening up five more spaces in private practice, which means I have more room to make a difference. You can email me here!
Much love and gratitude for each of you,